[Mary]

Could you help me.The problem is that I have girl and a boy.My doughter ir older than my son.She is 13 , my son is 11.Yesterday when I came back from my close frined I saw that my older one is playing with brothers penis.She was touching it and masturbating him.I was in shock but I didn´t do then enything.What should I do?I can´t even imagine that it was real,I am still in shock...

[gurlfulofsmiles]

You need to seriously have a talk with your children separately do not talk to them together. If they don't want to talk to you let them talk to a professional. Your children are old enough to actually know what they were doing. If none of that works, embarrass them, guarantee you'll never catch them again.

[ndnpride]

I also have a boy and girl but the boy is older and they where caught doing the same thing, I STRONGLY DISAGRRE WITH EMBARRESSING THEM,,

[ndnpride]

I also have a boy and girl but the boy is older and they where caught doing the same thing, I STRONGLY DISAGRRE WITH EMBARRESSING THEM,, you have to explain to them that is not for LITTLE BOYS AND LITTLE GIRLS TO BE DOING ESPECIALLY SINCE THEY ARE BROTHER AND SISTER,,


GOOD LUCK

[ndnpride]

I also have a boy and girl but the boy is older and they where caught doing the same thing, I STRONGLY DISAGRRE WITH EMBARRESSING THEM,, you have to explain to them that is not for LITTLE BOYS AND LITTLE GIRLS TO BE DOING ESPECIALLY SINCE THEY ARE BROTHER AND SISTER,,


GOOD LUCK

[amySlater]

Dear mom,
There are more issues here than I can possibly address. I read all of the threads following your plea for help and none of them seemed to see a real problem here. Embarrassment clearly is not the answer. There are some serious boundary issues going on here. This is clearly INAPPROPRIATE behavior going on between two kids who are plenty old enough to know better. If they do not know better they should at least be able to sense that something isn't right. I don't want to scare you too badly but you should seriously question whether both of these children have been subjected to sexual abuse. It is a horrible and hideous thing to even consider but I assure you that this experimentation between brother and sister is clearly not what most people would consider to be normal. I would suggest that you talk to each one of then separately about this behavior and sexuality in general. Let them know that it is not okay to behave that way and ask them to be honest in their answers. If you can't bring yourself to address this issue with them them please seek out a counselor in the school system or social service system to help you and your children. It is not abnormal for the kids to be curious and many even say that masturbation is perfectly normal at this particular age range but nowhere will you find that it is normal or okay for a thirteen year old girl to experiment on or with her brother or vice-versa. I am by no means trying to embarrass you or offend you in any way. If this is simple a case of misdirected curiosity, it is your job to help the kids set up boundaries, especially when it comes to their bodies.
My prayers are with you and the kids,
Amy

[mike145k]

No you got a problem lady your daughter is a sicko at that age she knows not to touch her own brothers she knows what all the bad terms are she knows the f word she knows about sex too take her out behind the wood shed and teach her a lesson the good old fashion way one stoke at a time with the belt. :eek:

[serialwife]

I agree with Amy. It is highly likely that your children have been exposed to some kind of sexual activity. It could be as simple as watching cinemax late at night or someone else hurting your children. I would have them assessed by a counselor that specalizes in child deviance. You need to set major boundaries. It needs to be explained what behavior is acceptable and what is not. Personal exploration is okay in their age bracket... group activity is not. Please be careful not to embarrass your children or place blame on one child or another. Make them realize that is unacceptable but it is the behavior that is wrong not the child themselves.

"no you got a problem lady your daughter is a sicko at that age she knows not to touch her own brothers she knows what all the bad terms are she knows the f word she knows about sex too take her out behind the wood shed and teach her a lesson the good old fashion way one stoke at a time with the belt."

Once again Mike astound me with his astoot parenting skills. Your child is not a sicko, but there are major red flags present. As for the comment to spank the child with a belt that is unacceptable!!!!You should never discipline a child with an object it is considered to be physical abuse if you leave a mark on the child. It may have been acceptable in the 50's but not today. Get your children answers and counseling don't add injury to their behavioral mistake.

[kristenlover62595]

Talk to their dad if they have one, the might have seen you guys ''rock the bed''