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    Big Clapper 44 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:13 PM
    Wife had affair now what?
    This is a very sad and long story. My wife and I have been together since 1992. We were married in 1994. Very shortly after our marriage in '94, I found out that she'd cheated on me while we were engaged with someone whom she had a strong connection to prior to my coming into the picture. When I found out I freaked out and would have left if not for the embarrassment we both wuld have endured (1 month into the marriage). Fast forward to 2009.

    This person had reconnected with my wife on Facebook. I found out and was surprised and upset, but tried to be rational, she assured me that they were just friends.

    Now fast forward to 2012... My wife and I split this fall, but I've been under the assumption that we were going to reconcile. I've very recently (today) found out that my wife had a physical and emotional affair with this person from 2009 until 2011, and tried to get him back after he dumped her.

    What do I do? I want to reconcile and put the past in the past and move forward.
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:18 PM
    Sorry to hear! I hope things get better for you hun! I would say to move on but you have been together for a while so it will be HARD! Stay STRONG!
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:23 PM
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    Sorry to hear! I hope things get better for you hun! I would say to move on but yall have been together for a while so it will be HARD! Stay STRONG!
    It is a very tough place to be right now. I've been trying so hard to improve the areas that I need to make better in my life for my kids and wife, now I find this.. actually, I've subconsciously known all along I think... and when I look back at our relationship, when her affair started is about the same time that our marriage started to fall apart.. go figure! I just want to do my best to try to get things back on track
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:26 PM
    Of course you want her back. You are in love. Hurt betrayed but in love. So is she, hurt and dumped but in love with him. NOT you. That means divorce her and heal your hurt. I mean how much cheating can a guy take? Sorry guy, I don't see this ever working for you. Or your kids.
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    Dec 28, 2012, 08:34 PM
    Again I am sorry! My mom and dad got divorsed when I was 4 years old! I am afraid to tell my mom I want my real dad to be apart of my life because she will probably say know! But... One day I will grow up and decide my own decisions! But I wish the best for you and you kids!
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