[rocketsfan23]

I've been "dating" this girl for several months now. We have never actually been exclusive which is part of the problem here. She was my best friend for several years beforehand and always had a boyfriend. I knew that coming out of that relationship she wouldn't be ready for quite some time and even told her that.

We began spending almost every night together and it was really good. Then she clearly became scared, she could tell I was ready for it to be more and she wasn't. She backed off and I gave her the space she wanted. We have been kind of limbo now for about a month, I can tell she holds back.

Lately she's had a short fuse with me and things definitely aren't the same. I also know that she still talks to other guys and I do understand that's totally acceptable.

I love this girl and would do anything to be with her in the future. I feel as though I've been too available though, always around, doing things, never really saying no because we are best friends and I do want to be around her all the time. I want her to appreciate all I do for her but not lose her completely.

I feel like letting her go and backing off a ton is the only way to do this. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

[Oliver2011]

From what you have described you sound like you have done everything you can and now it is up to her. If you are always there she doesn't have to consider the fact that one day you might not be there.

Give her the space right now and see what she does next. But that doesn't mean you stop your life or looking for someone else.

[C0bra_M3nace]

I think you moved in a bit too fast. You should have given her the space she needed from the start.

Give it time and give her some room to heal and if things go forward from there, great.