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    ellie58 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 14, 2007, 12:39 PM
    Reporing a cheating fiancée
    :mad: Hi
    I'm asking the question did I do right in emailing a fiancée of an ex boyfriend of 3 years telling her he has come on to me at least twice and says he wants me back and to live with him. He ased that I give him a few months too get rid of her and that I should phone him and if she answers to hang up. He said he really missed me and wanted me back and never intends to marry her, She is just there to help with the rent and food.

    My friends say to keep out of it but I can't help wishing someone had warned me about him years ago because he caused me a lot of grief.

    I decided to email her as we had met where he plays by accident and became friendly, I was with a man friend at the time.

    Itold all everything he had said to me and about never marrying her.
    I'm sure she is devastated but Ifelt I would want to know if it were me.
    Did I do wrong?:mad: :cool:
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    Mar 14, 2007, 12:43 PM
    The truth is, no one is likley to believe a word you say, you will be branded the bitter ex and ignored. I would stay out of it.
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    Mar 14, 2007, 12:51 PM
    Well, I know it's drastic - BUT, I would want to know. She needs to know what a real loser creepy he is.

    Obviously he will cheat on her. You may have saved her a lot of heart ache and you both Know WHAT a creep he is.

    THANK GOD you didn't react on - he ONLY wanted to use you.

    + if he caused you a lot of grief - she should know.

    Quite frankly I agree with you - I AM SURE THERE ARE A LOT OF WOMEN OUT THERE THAT WISH THEY HAD RECEIVED AN E-MAIL LIKE YOURS.
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    Mar 14, 2007, 01:15 PM
    Was in the same situation recently. Sort of.

    I am a 3rd party who knows that a woman's new fiancé had MANY girlfriends WHILE married... She is likely headed in same direction. And she has NO idea.

    I said nothing because I am not close enough, but I do feel sorry for her.
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    May 16, 2007, 09:13 PM
    Ash I would let her know... I would give names of people that she could confirm this with including myself, if she so choose's. Std's can be deadly. If she choose's to ignore it then I would never say anything again.
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    May 19, 2007, 07:57 PM
    You've already done it, and now let it go its none of your business anymore.
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    May 19, 2007, 08:57 PM
    I probably would have struggled with that myself - perhaps done the same thing you did.

    So it's done. She'll take what she wants from the information and either use or not. At least you can sleep at night.
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