[needhelpalways]

So I've had some sort of "thing" with this guy for a year. We never made it official, but for the past two months, things have been a bit more serious. The thing is, he is really hard to deal with. He's the kind of "tough" guy that says that if he shows feelings, or runs after the girl, she'll treat him poorly. Claims that he had that proven in his last relationship... That's really unfortunate and all, but its not my fault. I was last with him 4 or 5 nights ago and it was amazing. Ever since then, I decided to wait for him to contact me, because I'm tired of doing every thing myself. Its been 5 days and he I have no sign of him...
What do I do?
End things? Wait until he comes to me? Hook up with some one else so he gets the idea that I moved on?(The last one is because I'm angry)

[Homegirl 50]

Sounds pretty one sided to me. Leave him alone.

[xIrishGirlx]

You should never, in my opinion, do something out of spite against someone at all, let when you don't have all the details. It tends to bite back.

I would communicate with him directly, and seriously ask where he thinks the relationship between you two is going. It doesn't sound like he's serious or ready to commit, and from the sounds of it, you aren't either.

[deeztha1]

Find someone else... you shouldn't chase after one that doesn't chase you

[needhelpalways]

Sounds pretty one sided to me. Leave him alone.

Just a follow up on on this... He messaged me as if nothing happened with a simple "have a goodnight". I replied with "have a goodnight aswell"... Why he messaged me is quite the question. But what should I do now?

[Homegirl 50]

Nothing. He obviously feels like he can contact you only when he feels like it.

[ArmstrongMiller]

You can be initiator...

[needhelpalways]

Nothing. He obviously feels like he can contact you only when he feels like it.

I see, so what your saying is to just not contact him?
I dated for 3 years about two years ago and I'm 18. I started young meaning many mistakes were made. I think I like this guy so I'm trying to do things right so I don't walk out with regrets. Help?

[Homegirl 50]

What I'm saying is don't chase him. You said yourself he is hard to deal with and he does not show feelings. Do you want to get wrapped up with someone like that, who only contacts you when he feels like it and you are left wondering where you stand?
Don't be desperate. There are guys out there who will not take you through so many hoops. Who don't have a problem showing their feelings, who have no problem chatting with you on a regular basis.