[SUPERJOE9999]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 5 months and we are dating long distance. We started the relationship off strongly and we both fell in love. But lately I have noticed a change in her. She seems more distance and less excited when I come to visit. So after asking about it enough she started crying and told me that her feelings might be changing. We had a big talk and she said that she would work on it and she didn't want to break up. So we haven't broken up yet but I haven't been taking this news well. I feel crummy all the time and I can barley eat. I don't want to end our relationship but I'm afraid she's only staying with me so she doesn't hurt me. This all happened a few days ago and I know I should be patient and wait but I just feel helpless and don't know what to do. I need help

[Homegirl 50]

Long distant relationships are hard and yours has not been very long. How often do you see each other?
Her feelings may have changed, it would be normal. She may not want to hurt you.

[SUPERJOE9999]

I come home every 2 weeks, and she's had feelings for me for over a year and I was finally able to return them. Im wondering if she may just not want to hurt me too but I told her itd be best to break it off now then later if that was the case and she insisted we should try to fix things

[Homegirl 50]

But she is not trying to fix things. This is in your hands, take it out of hers. Break it off. No need of hanging around waiting for her to decide what she wants and it is selfish for her to expect you to.
How old are the two of you?

[Fr_Chuck]

Agree, sounds like there is no real communication, no talking about each others feelings.

But yes a long distance relationship is very hard to do, since at some point, one side or the other is going to want this to be a full time in person relationship.

So unless there are plans for that to happen in near future, normally they fail.

But have you told her how you feel about it.

Perhaps a break till she decides

[SUPERJOE9999]

I am 20 and she is 19. Im afraid to take a break because it could just be a bump in the road that could blow over. And yes I have told her how I feel about it, I've told her I'm scared of what might happen or that she might want to break up and she responded with "dont worry we wont, ill try my best to get our relationship back on track"

[Homegirl 50]

Then you need to decide if you want to stay in the state you're in, or stay in limbo.

[SUPERJOE9999]

Thanks for your help, ill probably give it some time before I make any big decisions unless something else happens.

[Homegirl 50]

I meant to say you need to decide if you want to stay in the state you're in or take control of the situation. It's up to you .