[PokeNiamh]

In school everyone avoids me or blanks me... Im just really sick of it and I really want to get some friends... Please help...

[Wondergirl]

Which country are you in?

How old are you?

[dontknownuthin]

What are you interested in? Are you in any activities? Are you outgoing or shy? Do you do anything that sets you apart in a possibly negative way?

My son had a friend in middle school who told me one time that everyone at school was a "jerk" because they didn't like him. Well, I'll tell you what I observed. This kid was not taking social cues very well, and went out of his way to be "different" to the point that it came off more like "weird". I don't think people have to change who they are to fit in generally but it depends on your priorities. If you want to fit in but do something like dress like an anime character, or carry a Sponge Bob lunchbox to high school, or otherwise do things that your peers think is weird, you may be paying a higher price than the behavior is worth.

Also consider whether they are ignoring you, or whether you are giving signals that you aren't available to be a friend.

The old advice to get involved at school is always a good thing to do. A lot of times kids are reluctant because they fear the first meeting or practice or whatever. Just pick an activity, do your best and focus on what you can offer to the group instead of worrying about what people think of you.

Confident kids don't worry what other people think of them - they are looking around to see what fun and interesting things there are to do, and they dive in and do them. They focus on doing their best, and from that, they make a good impression and make friends over time.

[PokeNiamh]

Which country are you in?

How old are you?

Im in england and I'm 13

[Wondergirl]

Please respond to what dontknow said.

[PokeNiamh]

What are you interested in? Are you in any activities? Are you outgoing or shy? Do you do anything that sets you apart in a possibly negative way?

Well, I like playing musical instruments (drums, trumpet and guitaur) but I am also very shy. I usually try to talk to people but I usually end up getting pushed around... Oh and I don't usually do anything that sets me apart from everyone else, unless you count makeup. I don't wear any of the stuff.

[Wondergirl]

You're a girl? (I never wore makeup, so that doesn't matter.)

[PokeNiamh]

Yer lol

[Fr_Chuck]

I also see you just broke up with a boyfriend, often people seem to move away from old friends when they get a boyfriend and all of a sudden they feel lost for a few weeks.

[Wondergirl]

Yer lol

Your user name isn't real clear about gender. You could be a Palomino pony too.

How well do you play those instruments?

[PokeNiamh]

Yeah I guess so... -_-

[Wondergirl]

What do you mean you get pushed around?

[PokeNiamh]

Your user name isn't real clear about gender. You could be a Palomino pony too.

How well do you play those instruments?

Quite well actually! (except for the guitar which I've just started)

[PokeNiamh]

What do you mean you get pushed around?

Well, people keep skitting me and "pretending" to hit me...

[Wondergirl]

Well, people keep skitting me and "pretending" to hit me...

Skitting? What is that?

What do you do?

[PokeNiamh]

Skitting is when your made fun of (sorry about that its scouse because I'm from liverpool but I don't speak with an accent eheheh)

But I usually just try abd ignore it...

[Wondergirl]

Skitting is when ur made fun of (sorry bout that its scouse coz im from liverpool but i dont speak with an accent eheheh)

But i usually just try abd ignore it...

Make a joke of it. Somehow you have to retrain these people.

[PokeNiamh]

Make a joke of it. Somehow you have to retrain these people.

Ok ill try it at school tomorrow. Thx for the help!! :-)

[Wondergirl]

Report back and we can think of more strategies.

[PokeNiamh]

Ok.