[Mariej1]

I've been with him for eleven years and married for five. I've never been in any relationship like this! He's been physically and emotionally abusive. He's almost 40 and acts like a eighteen year old drinking, coming home the next day, playing video games. Two out of the three jobs he's had, he's gotten because of me and once he's on the job he act like a big wig making poor decisions that leads to job lost. Five years ago I got pregnant while on birth control and my daughter was born who he loves dearly, but is no way a good example of what a husband should be. I've endured so much financial stress paying bills and for other foolish things like, him driving with no license and getting the car towed, or car accidents. I had a job that required me to travel a lot, but I quit because he was toting the kids around hanging out like they're one of his buddies. I tried to find a local job, so I can divorce him and be at piece with my kids, but I've had no success. I've depleted all my savings trying to maintain my kids quality of life and now my back is up against the wall. I know when he shows moments of change and when he says he's sorry, he's not and I stay because my back is up against the wall and if I don't take the only job offer I have me and the kids will lose our home. All because I don't have anyone to watch the daughter we have together. Why am I being punished? How can I ever get out?

[joypulv]

Punished? You married him with your eyes wide shut, I guess. You were with him 6 years before getting pregnant, not your fault if you were on a GOOD birth control, but you already knew him by then, so why were you still sleeping with him. Sorry. If you keep taking this punishment viewpoint you will never get out. Divorce him and find one or two other single or divorced mothers to share expenses with in your home.

[Homegirl 50]

You are not being punished, you practically volunteered. You knew what he was like yet you married him and you have stayed. Get yourself together with a network and divorce him.