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    Nov 11, 2012, 10:57 PM
    It was one of those times that you tell yourself to stop over and over, but your body doesn't care what you say... but thank you for the advice I REALLY REALLY appricate it. :) anything else I should keep in mind?
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:01 PM
    Honestly this is the second time we are going out... last time it only lasted a week but out 2 month anniversary is coming up. I will keep what you said in mind. But I have a feeling this time it will work. Love doesn't over cloud my judgment because I am reminded what he did to me last year
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:03 PM
    ... I don't know who I am yet... so that is part of the problem.
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:07 PM
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    .... i dont know who i am yet.... so that is part of the problem.
    My advice is to get to a doctor, get on birth control, and make sure you realize that what you do will affect the rest of your life.
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    #25

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:08 PM
    If you don't know who you are, you shouldn't be dating at ALL!

    2 months is too early for a sexual relationship no matter how old you are.
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:09 PM
    Yes ma'am I will
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:11 PM
    We only see each other once every 3 weeks... it going to be even less when he starts going to college in January. I just want someone to be there to support me. I feel like... I'm nothing most of the time. Most of it depression and anger but I going to talk to a professional soon... but I don't know if I can break up with him.
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:12 PM
    Remember that there is no form of birth control that is 100% effective. I got pregnant not once, but twice, using the pill exactly as directed and using a condom.

    I then got pregnant after having a 6 month course of chemotherapy after cancer. The chemo was supposed to make me sterile, but it didn't.
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    #29

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPea95 View Post
    i just want someone to be there to support me. i feel like.... i'm nothing most of the time.
    Time to find a counselor, maybe by asking the nurse or guidance counselor at school?
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:14 PM
    This was last year before we had incourse he made me take birth control for at least a week straight and he wore 2 condoms. I was still nervous I couldn't stop shaking but this time... he thought we would be safe but... thts just it...
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:15 PM
    Birth control is less effective if taken for less than a month. Wearing 2 condoms is not only uncomfortable for him, but a disaster in the making.
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:17 PM
    I use to talk to my pastor that's known me since kinder garden... but I afraid to ask to go because my pastor will tell my mom. That's where I trapped. Everyone I talk to that I can talk about this in person has my moms number
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    #33

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:18 PM
    Question. How is it a disaster in the making?
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    #34

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPea95 View Post
    i use to talk to my pastor thats known me since kinder garden... but i afraid to ask to go because my pastor will tell my mom. thats where i trapped. everyone i talk to that i can talk about this in person has my moms number
    My dad was a Lutheran pastor. Pastors are not supposed to break confidentiality.
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    #35

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:19 PM
    Okay... some how I will try to get to my pastor.
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    #36

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:22 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPea95 View Post
    okay... some how i will try to get to my pastor.
    Make sure you tell him up front that this is a confidential matter and you do not want him to divulge it to anyone.

    Is he Lutheran?
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    #37

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:24 PM
    Yes he is lutheran... I grew up in a school district that was combined with a church
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    Nov 11, 2012, 11:26 PM
    It's a disaster in the making because a condom is made to be used only one at a time. Using two sets you up for the condoms breaking.
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    #39

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:27 PM
    In all seriousness Sweetpea, if you are not prepared to be a mother, keep your pants on. It's really not that hard.
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    #40

    Nov 11, 2012, 11:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPea95 View Post
    yes he is lutheran... i grew up in a school district that was combined with a church
    Missouri-Synod or ELCA?
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