[1BrightStar]

Ok so I have a issue with porn as it is myself esteam and some things that happened to me as a kid make it hard to watch with a partner but I have no issue with it by myself I don't know my brain is funky... I don't mind if my guy watches porn as long as I'm getting what I want sexualy if he's turning me down because he is tugging on it too much to some other chicks action so to speak then I have a issue.
So I'm currently without a computer due to mine getting stolen I was using my boyfriends when to my shock and surprise I went to put some stuff on my iPod and some of the video options were a bunch of gay and tranny porn , now if it was stuff he had looked at in passing I would have found it a little odd but it was stuff he had chosen to save and that freaked me out something about the way he is about porn creeps me out as it is but this was a majo turn off for me !
So I talk to him about it when he gets home from work and he has all these half excuses I can't even remember but anyway what's the deal is he gay? Bi? Or is that normal?(doubtful) I'm feeling totally confused grossed out and betrayed 7 years and this comes out now and somewhere in the conversation we had he said he felt better because he didn't have to lie about it anymore?? What? HELP

[Aurora_Bell]

Whether he is gay, bi or straight, it's all normal. However, lying to you and himself about his sexuality is not. We can't tell you what his sexual preference is, but HE can tell YOU.


I would sit down in a neutral setting (not in bed), and straight up ask him what's going on. It's important to come to him with an open mind, not judging or making accusations, Ask with him why he has that stuff on his computer. If it is was just a one of, a peeked interest or something he finds arousing, it's something--as an adult-- you guys should be able to talk about with open minds. If he is gay, or bi, it's going to create huge changes in your relationship, and it's important to not blame anyone for what's happening. Being gay isn't a choice, and it takes a lot of guts for a person to come out and be able to openly talk about their feelings.

Be brave, and be sensitive.

[Oliver2011]

Aren't the lines between gay, bi, and straight all cloudy now? Are there really any totally straight guys left? A lot of them are gay for pay because everyone has their price.

I only say the above because I had a golf and tennis buddy named Drew as a very good friend. He lived with this girl for a very long time. But whenever Drew got wasted, he would sleep with me. It was odd because he was also "straight."

7 years and you are getting your needs fulfilled - I don't see the issue here. Although he should be honest with you so I guess you could take issue with that piece of the equation.