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    Hollywolly Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 28, 2012, 08:07 AM
    He is selfish in bed, WHAT DO I DO?
    Ok, so this might be tmi but I need some help. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. In the beginning of the relationship everything was great, he was always trying to please me. And I finally gave in. Now he is just plain out selfish.

    When I want to have sex, he acts as if it doesn't matter. When we do have sex he always pushes my head down insisting a blowjob. And of course I want to please him, but I NEVER get anything in return. As soon as he cums he's done. I'll tell him I didn't get off and he refuses to do anything to help please me. He'll sayd something like " I have a headache" or "later" but later never comes.

    && foreplay? What's that? Because I never get that. He always goes straight for it and doesn't even seem to care its uncomfortable for me. Its always me pleasing him and never the other way around. I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried talking to him, and it obviously doesn't work. Please help!
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    Oct 28, 2012, 08:21 AM
    Why do all relationships start great and then when you get to really know the person the relationship part starts to head south? Maybe we have blinders on in the beginning.

    Sorry I am not much help with this one. Personally I would cut him off. But I am not a big believer in having relationships.
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    Oct 29, 2012, 11:24 AM
    So he did please you in the beginning, but not anymore? Ask him why he's changed? Tell him without foreplay it is uncomfortable for you. Keep talking to him about it. Tell him if he doesn't please you then you won't please him, simple as that. And stick with it. Don't give in! If he keeps this up then I'd break up with him.

    Also, do you think he could be mad at you for something else? Something unrelated to sex? Maybe he's been mad at you for something for a long time, but holding it in. And this is how he's getting you back. If so, he needs to tell you so you can work it out. Once that's resolved, the sex should go back to how it use to be.
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    Oct 29, 2012, 12:30 PM
    I think you should just stop being so giving unless he's willing to return the favor. There's no reason that he should insist on getting everything he wants while you're left feeling uncomfortable and neglected. If he isn't willing to change (i.e. be just a little less lazy), then his feelings for you obviously don't run very deep and I think you should leave him.

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