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    Oct 27, 2012, 02:01 PM
    I ended a 6 year relationship and now I'm just confused..
    I started to get the feeling that I wanted to leave him a few months ago (2ish) when I caught him sexting a girl he had previously worked with but has since gotten a new job. I made him cut all ties and tried moving forward. But I guess I didn't really trust him after that.

    Then two weeks ago I felt like there was a lack of happiness in our relationship and so I tried talking to him about it but nothing really got figured out. Then. Just a few days ago I caught him sexting with a completely different girl and. He couldn't really find an excuse as to why he kept doing this. But it hurts me. So I decided to end our relationship.
    I left and went to stay the night at my parents house and immediately felt like an idiot for leaving him. I missed him already and I felt confused. But I do not trust him. However. I'm not mad at him. I don't even hate him. I just feel confused and hurt.

    Yesterday we met up and talked about the situation again. I feel like we were both trying to secretly find a way to make it work out. But nothing was solved. But I knew it wouldn't happen over night.

    I ended up staying the night with him. Nothing sexual. Just slept next to him. Last night it felt right but today it just feels weird. We are not together but we are talking (with hesitancy
    Almost like we were back together again. But we aren't.

    I feel like there's no-one in my life that I can talk to that understands what mixed feelings I have right now. I don't know what to do. I don't trust him. But I love him.

    I guess I just need an outside perspective as to what's going on in my head. I don't know what to do.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 02:05 PM
    He's comfortable to be with, and the alternative is being alone. You need to move on with life without him, and see if it is better. Sexting is cheating. You don't say how old you both are. Also, where are your friends?
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    Oct 27, 2012, 02:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    He's comfortable to be with, and the alternative is being alone. You need to move on with life without him, and see if it is better. Sexting is cheating. You don't say how old you both are. Also, where are your friends?
    I'm 22. He is 23. We got together in high school.

    Ah. 2 of my closest friend know. But one just seems to be happy that we aren't together anymore and the other doesn't really know what to think.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 03:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by camoprincess View Post
    I'm 22. He is 23. We got together in highschool.

    Ah. 2 of my closest friend know. But one just seems to be happy that we aren't together anymore and the other doesn't really know what to think.
    You two were very young to stay in this relationship for such a long time. Sexting is cheating in my book. How do you feel about it? Are you able to support yourself if you two aren't together?
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    Oct 27, 2012, 08:01 PM
    I feel like sexting is a fine line almost. But I don't know if I'm taking it lightly because it happened to me or not. When I think of it.. I think.. what if he actually did the deed later on because I let him get away with this?

    Im not able to live on my own without the extra financial support, no. but that doesn't bother me.

    I saw him again today. Its like I felt happy/uneasy. I kind of feel like I'm digging a hole for myself. More or less. I wish this was just a bad dream.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 08:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by camoprincess View Post
    I feel like sexting is a fine line almost. but I dont know if i'm taking it lightly because it happend to me or not. When I think of it.. I think.. what if he actually did the deed later on because i let him get away with this?

    Im not able to live on my own without the extra financial support, no. but that doesnt bother me.

    I saw him again today. Its like i felt happy/uneasy. I kind of feel like i'm digging a hole for myself. More or less. I wish this was just a bad dream.
    What does your mom have to say about this?
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    Oct 27, 2012, 08:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    What does your mom have to say about this?
    I guess I'm not sure what you mean.
    About the relationship or me coming back to stay with my parents?
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    Oct 27, 2012, 09:02 PM
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    I guess i'm not sure what you mean.
    About the relationship or me coming back to stay with my parents?
    Living back at home.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 09:07 PM
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    Living back at home.
    She is okay with it. It's not as if I don't have a job... I work full time hours as a server, but I'm still in college.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 09:27 PM
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    She is okay with it. It's not as if I don't have a job... I work full time hours as a server, but i'm still in college.
    Stay back at home and finish school. Move on with your life.

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