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What should I do about my ex?
Hey guys,
I'm going to start with saying that I'm 17 years old. My (used to be) boyfriend broke up with me last week. It was on a Friday night. I can't stop thinking about him and that's probably normal. But I want some advice from other people. I need a road to follow. So... here's the story: We were madly in love with each other and I am not sorry that I gave my virginity away to him. He was the one. We had a futur in our mind. We were supposed to get married and have children. He was my best friend and I was his. He told all his secrets to me and I did that too. He always said that he never had someone who listens to him like I do. But that all faded away the last two months. My feelings (butterflies) were fading away. But I still loved/love him. I didn't say anything to him because I didn't know he felt the same way. I asked him sublty if he still felt the same way as in the beginning. He said yes but that was a lie. I can't blame him. I thought of breaking up with him. But I couldn't do it, because I would miss him a LOT. I couldn't bare the thoughts of actually losing him. That's how much I love him. But then.. His father had to go to the hospital last week. I wasn't there for him to support him through it. I was so busy with school that I forgot about it. It wasn't my intention to abandon him when he needed me the most. And I know that I wasn't being a good girlfriend to him that time. If I could do it all over again, I would change what I did wrong. I would support him. So.. He broke up with me. He said he didn't love me that much anymore. He still loves me like he loves his mother. But the feelings of being in love were gone. I was devastaded. My feelings were back when he said that to me. I wrote him a letter in the hope he would feel compassion with me. But that didn't work out. I went to his house the second day. To see if he really meant it. He did, and he was sooo cold to me. It's like he doesn't even care that it's over. It felt like he forgot about the 2 whole years. That it doesn't mean anything to him. We still see each other at school. But he seems so happy, like nothing happened between us. I asked people how he's been. He told all of them that he's more than fine. That everything is okay. I can see why (It turns out that his father survived cancer), but that doesn't mean he has to fully forget about me.. right? I also found out that he said that it stung a little the night he broke up. Should I believe this? I want to believe it... But I can't. Not after how he handled me. Well... that was my story. I just want some advice. Should I let him go? Or is there a chance that we end up together again? Ps: he was my first boyfriend. We lasted 2 years. |
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It seems you guys were growing out of each other but neither wanted to admit it. When his dad got sick, that was his excuse to do it.
Leave him alone. I think the reason your feelings came back was because he broke up with you. It takes time but you will get past this. |
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I'm 17 and I was with my boyfriend for 3 years.. Sounds like the connection you and your ex had was the same as mine.. It's hard to forget someone that gave you so much to remember and I know how horrible you must feel not to be able to kiss and hug him when you pass him by, thing about us girls is that it seems a whole lot harder to hide our feelings.. Boys seem to show they care a lot less but with his dads good news I think it's made it easier for him to relax about everything.. My advice to you is if you love him as much as you say then fight for it, he's your first and believe me, your not going to find anybody that compares to him! Good luck
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 Originally Posted by Schofimel
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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
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He doesn't feel the same way as you, perhaps the illness in his family has changed him. Doesn't mean he never felt anything for you, it just means things changed.. and you deserve someone who will love you and this guy isn't it the one..
I know it hurts, but it doesn't hurt forever. |
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Originally Posted by Wowsilvermoon
He does love you, trust me.. I split wiv my boyfriend because I fort I didn't want him, he cried for me and he tried everything to get me back.. But I still left, now I moved away and I've realised how stupid I am to have left someone that loves and cares about me so much, we're back together now and I'm trying everything to get back.. It's been a while u 2 have been together, he's confused, leave him for abit and trust me he'll Realize how much he does love you.. I did |
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Originally Posted by Schofimel
I actually wanted to see one of your reaction. But I realize that it's useles to fight for someone who already gave up on me. What if he does come back? How long will it take for him to realize it? I'm not a bad person but it seems like he doesn't even care about me, I want him to feel what I'm feeling. Just to show him that I do love him and that he hurts me with him being cold to me. My heart wants to love him, but my brain says no. |
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Originally Posted by Wowsilvermoon
Well the only thing you can do is go with your brain because going with your heart is just going to leave you broken :(... If its meant to be then there is a space for you both in the future, just have fun for now, enjoy being young and independent because one day you'll find the perfect one, if it's him or not, your just going to have to wait and see.. |
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I found out he loved somebody else.
Hey guys,
Me again, I found out that he loved somebody else during our relationship. He even asked me for advice. You know.. That kind of story that people say: "A friend of the girl has a girlfriend whom he really loves but he likes the girl too. What should he do?" How shady! He already doubted our relationship for a year. He didn't leave me because "he loved me too much". I don't believe that anymore. If he really loved me, he would tell the truth right? He let me believe that everything was good about him. That everything he did, was great and wonderful and he was the best boyfriend ever. But in reality, he was already busy with some other girl. He never cheated though. He only "loved" her. You'll not believe who told me. The girl.. The girl he's been texting with. That made it worse! I feel so used. It has been going on for a whole year. I can't believe he truly loved me. I can't believe that anymore. It hurts again. I had an image of him built up in my head that got crushed. It's like reality that hits you in the face. Its been two weeks now. We split up two weeks ago. I can't feel anything for him anymore. Although I still dream of him. I don't want that. I dreamt I kissed him and everything was back to normal. I Hate my dreams. I don't want him back!! |
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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
I know I'm supposed to not know any activity he's doing but we're in the same school and a good friend told me that. Although I didn't want to know such a thing. What's the best thing to do now? Move on, I know.. But I need advice on how to be "okay" with it. |
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