[rebecca1]

I am 43 female Christian from USA. He is 33 male Muslim from India. Should we marry. I am concerned about the age and faith difference.

[Jezz182]

I think that if you really love each other, age and faith won't be a problem. Take it slow, though. You sound like you are rushing it.

[vitalcell]

You Both Obviously Have A lot Of Differences, But If You've Been Able To Get Along And Respect Each Others Different Beliefs And Opinions Enough To Believe You Want To Marry Then I Would Say Go Ahead, But You Will Always Have To Remember To Respect And Not Judge Each Others Faith And Decisions Which Could Get Difficult, Like Jezz Said Take It Slow.

[Krs]

Have u discussed country of residence?
And how to go about your different faith?
And if you have children which religion would you chose for them?

[aalex2973]

Me and my husband are 20 years apart. He is 41 and I'm 22. Our marriage is GREAT!! I love our relationship! It is the BEST. I have dated a lot and he is the best man ever. I say just take is slow and you guys will be great!

[grammadidi]

The facts are that one in two American marriages end in divorce. To carry that statistic a little further, note that the overall divorce rate among Muslims in North America is at an astounding 31%. Add to that the differences in religion and age and your marriage could be a statistic.

I think that if you are seriously considering marriage then you should take your time to ensure that you both agree on what marriage means to you. There is a high incidence of domestic violence in Muslim marriages. Muslim men often feel it is okay to hit their wives and children. Have you discussed your beliefs in this area?

Do you know what his relationship is with his parents, brothers, sisters, etc. Have you discussed what you would do if you felt you were having marital difficulties? Do you know his friends? If so, do you like them or do they seem very different from him? Friends can be an accurate reflection of a person's temperament, likes and dislikes.

What is the financial situation like? Money problems can ruin the best of marriages. Do you agree on who works, how to budget, where money should be spent, etc? It is my understanding that Muslim men control all of the spending, and they often limit what the woman can have and do.

What about children? What are both of your views on child rearing, discipline, religious upbringing, etc. Most Muslim men believe that if the marriage ends that the children are theirs. Do you agree with this? Do you know and accept that Islam allows multiple marriages and expects total obedience to her husband from a woman? These are all things that should be discussed and resolved before considering marriage.

I think you really need to take your time and not jump into anything. Do some research on the internet about Muslim American marriage and divorce. Make a well informed decision because whatever you do will affect the rest of your life.

Good luck.

Didi

[messyandpainful]

It depends on what you mean by a 'christian' and what he means by a 'muslim'.

If by a Christian you mean that you are trusting in the death of JC to make you right with God and are living by the Bible, then no you should not even think of marrying this guy.

The Bible makes it clear in 1 Corinthians 7 that Christians are not to marry non-christians. So if that is the case then its cut and dry.

If however by 'Christian' you mean that you live in a 'christian country' but don't have a committed faith yourself, then 1 Corinthians 7 would not apply to you, so its your choice.

Hope that helps. Not an easy answer I know, but the Bible is very clear on it.

[jasara]

I hope you will not take this wrong but it is very likely that you may end up changing to his religion.If you are a Christian remember the bible advises us not to be unequally yoked meaning we cannot get married to those of other faiths.It is up to you but nothing in this world is worth giving up the Lord Jesus Christ for.I hope this helps and do not feel condemned but think about you eternal life than this life which is temporary.Stay Blessed.I hope you will make the right decision.

[grammadidi]

Jasara, I see you are fairly new here so I just wanted to remind you to check out the dates of the original posts and responses prior to giving a response of your own. This question was asked more than 4 years ago, so there is really no point in responding.

Thanks, Didi