Originally Posted by
dwoodlief123
My husband has worked with a divorced woman for 3 years in very close proximity. Their work stations are right next to the other. He wanted her and her son to go to Disney with us on vacation at our time share. I agreed OK as long as she paid her way. Husband bought their tickets with military discount and was to be reimbursed. I paid for timeshare in advance and an extra day that she wanted to stay and was to be reimbursed. Long story short, I got stuck at work very late and Husband & granddaughter and his friend & her son had to go the 1st night by themselves (in separate cars) and I had to follow the next day. After that weekend their chats, texts and phone calls to each other were significantly more than the prior years. Additionally, he went to her house to "fix her weedeater" on 2 separate occasions, making excuses why I couldn't go with him. I asked my husband repeatedly to collect the money she owed us (over $600) and he has yet to do so. He left me 2 wks ago as he was unhappy and thinks I am crazy and he is just trying to be nice and they are good friends. Past history is husband had an affair years ago and then 1 1/2 yrs we split for 4 months because husband for having an "emotional affair" (he said no sex) with a different woman. He was chatting and tons of phone calls, texts, meeting her and typing he loved her.
When we reconciled after the split 1 1/2 years ago, his grown children disowned him and kept him from grandkids because he went back to me. Now they are back in his life (which is great) but he has not included me. We started back in counseling but only one session so far.
I think I would have put the "he moved out" part first.
Yes, I'd guess he's cheating, maybe with this woman, maybe with someone else.
Counseling is a good opition - but it takes time.
I'm an investigator. I work matrimonial surveillances. I have learned that there are two types of "cheaters." One type is a serial cheater. The other cheats once and learns a lesson.
I suspect your husband is #1.
Why did his children "disown" him after he reconciled with you?