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Sep 11, 2012, 02:05 PM
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Found a text from my husband to his ex.
Found text Msg from my husband to his supposed to be Ex mistress.It read from him first how are you? She replied she's fine.He said he was just checking on her making sure she's good.She said oh OK thanks.Him: your welcome no problem..
It sound innocent but what you think and what was the point?
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Jobs & Parenting Expert
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Sep 11, 2012, 02:08 PM
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Where did you find this message?
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Sep 11, 2012, 02:27 PM
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In his cell while he was out jogging.
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current pert
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Sep 11, 2012, 02:36 PM
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Given the fact that there was nothing innocent about you snooping, while he innocently left his phone around, and he never took the effort to delete the text, it is in your interest to let it go as NOTHING. Opening up this can of worms will do nothing good. It will all come back on you.
It doesn't even sound like they have had any contact in quite a while. What's wrong with wondering how someone is? I wonder about every single person I was ever involved with, and at my age, that's several.
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Marriage Expert
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Sep 11, 2012, 02:56 PM
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Found text Msg from my husband to his supposed to be Ex mistress.It read from him first how are you? She replied she's fine.He said he was just checking on her making sure she's good.She said oh OK thanks.Him: your welcome no problem..
It sound innocent but what you think and what was the point?
Lisa, how long have you been married? Your other threads are all over the place so I am not going to try to untangle that knot by myself.
What I will advise on what you have said here is that you need counseling. Snooping is a sign of not trusting your partner. You don't trust him so either you give up the relationship or you work on allowing trust to rebuild.
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Sep 11, 2012, 06:07 PM
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Ok you guys are on whooping.he contacted his mistress.the text is nit old it just happened there's dates on text.The fact he contacted nit an ex girlfriend but a mistress he was supposed to have given io but you guys are in snooping.Sorry he didn't purposely leave his phone it fell out his sweat jacket he thought he had with him.So no I heard text noise so I picked up his phone off the floor and her name loops up innocent.
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Marriage Expert
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Sep 11, 2012, 06:21 PM
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Originally Posted by lisa1471
Ok you guys are on whooping.he contacted his mistress.the text is nit old it just happened there's dates on text.The fact he contacted nit an ex girlfriend but a mistress he was supposed to have given io but you guys are in snooping.Sorry he didn't purposely leave his phone it fell out his sweat jacket he thought he had with him.So no I heard text noise so I picked up his phone off of the floor and her name loops up innocent.
But you didn't have to read what it said. You made a choice to view the texts which means that you don't trust him enough to ask him what is going on. Instead you are asking us if the exchange was innocent.
Like I said, I looked back over your past threads and posts. It is such a tangled mess that I don't know when you stopped being the other woman and married this man who you don't fully trust.
How long have the two of you been married? How long ago was he supposed to 'have given her up'?
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Education Expert
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Sep 11, 2012, 06:24 PM
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Originally Posted by lisa1471
Ok you guys are on whooping.he contacted his mistress.the text is nit old it just happened there's dates on text.The fact he contacted nit an ex girlfriend but a mistress he was supposed to have given io but you guys are in snooping.Sorry he didn't purposely leave his phone it fell out his sweat jacket he thought he had with him.So no I heard text noise so I picked up his phone off of the floor and her name loops up innocent.
It is an innocent conversation. You shouldn't be checking up on someone you trust. When my husband's cell rings or beeps and he's not in the room, I either take him the phone or tell him I heard it. I never look at who it is. That's snooping.
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Uber Member
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Sep 11, 2012, 06:25 PM
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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4
It is an innocent conversation. You shouldn't be checking up on someone you trust. When my husband's cell rings or beeps and he's not in the room, I either take him the phone or tell him I heard it. I never look at who it is. That's snooping.
There's a long history behind this question. It's either not real OR the OP enjoys playing the victim.
You will notice that she divorced her husband last October - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...nd-601633.html
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Sep 11, 2012, 06:30 PM
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Not sure why your posting but this story is about him contacting his mistress.Of coarse if he cheated had an AFFAIR I'm going to loom at his phone. DUH
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Expert
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Sep 11, 2012, 06:31 PM
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The message means nothing, but your posts that appear to be different men and different issues tells another story
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Dating & Teen Expert
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Sep 11, 2012, 07:17 PM
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I think you have serious problems.
Get some counseling.
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Sep 12, 2012, 07:14 PM
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My hubby is cheating but I have no right to snoopy.oh OK great advice.
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Marriage Expert
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Sep 12, 2012, 07:27 PM
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Originally Posted by lisa1471
My hubby is cheating but I have no right to snoopy.oh ok great advice.
You still haven't said how long you have been married. How long ago did he supposedly break off their relationship?
You made the choice at some point in time to marry him and keep him no matter when the 'cheating' occurred. With that choice came the responsibility to put the past behind you and work on your relationship and trust with him.
If you do not trust him, why are you with him? If you do trust him, why not ask him about what you read?
Counseling or divorce seem to be your main options at this point.
As I keep saying, I have read your other threads about cheating. I can't help but wonder if he did cheat or if you are looking for him to be unfaithful because of your own past.
If you can't work or communicate with him about what you saw and how you found it, then your relationship is doomed.
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Dating & Teen Expert
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Sep 12, 2012, 07:47 PM
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I don't see anything in that message that suggested cheating. My ex will text to check on me from time to time. I do the same with him and we have no desire to cheat with each other.
You sound paranoid.
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Welbeing Expert
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Sep 12, 2012, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted by lisa1471
My hubby is cheating but I have no right to snoopy.oh ok great advice.
I have no sympathy nor do I have empathy for you. If he IS a cheater, then YOU chose to stay with him.
If you feel the need to snoop, well then your relationship is doomed!
Obviously there are a lot of inconsistencies in your other posts for members to not only question, but post as well.
I, however, did not read any other threads, only this one, and judging by this thread, I would say you were in the wrong for snooping. But if he is cheating or has in the past, well then, that's all on you. Why? Because you continued to be with him.
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Uber Member
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Sep 13, 2012, 05:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Enigma1999
I have no sympathy nor do I have empathy for you. If he IS a cheater, then YOU chose to stay with him.
If you feel the need to snoop, well then your relationship is doomed!
Obviously there are a lot of inconsistencies in your other posts for members to not only question, but post as well.
I, however, did not read any other threads, only this one, and judging by this thread, I would say you were in the wrong for snooping. But if he is cheating or has in the past, well then, that's all on you. Why? Because you continued to be with him.
In the October threads, much of the same info, she divorced him. OP is here to argue, not for advice. Same thing on all the other threads. I'm not sure there is a cell phone - or a husband, for that matter.
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Movie Expert
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Sep 13, 2012, 09:23 AM
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Hmm... I'm wondering if there really was a divorce? Maybe this is the same husband?
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Sep 13, 2012, 02:21 PM
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Honey bun I'm married
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