[CiviCity]

Hey,

I'm really seeking for some help and support.

Back story: me and my girlfriend met in high school. We were friend for a few months and then things got serious. We dated for almost two years... next month :(.

We started having some arguments and not talking to each other for a few days for maybe 2 months now. It's a roller coaster. Sometimes it's fantastic, some others, we feel like killing each other.

Today, she decided to tell me that she sees me more of a best friend than a boyfriend. That the activities and stuff we do are similar to the ones she does with her friends. But for me, it's different. The stuff I would do with her, I would never do with a regular friend...

She said that she cares about me more than she cares about her mom (only family member). Now that I'm writing this, I also realize that for the past few days, she hasn't been saying ily or anything like that.

I have Poured my heart out to her and she agreed to have this "time out" of 2 weeks where we won't be seeing each other or talking or anything and that she will rethink about everything. She said it's a 50/50 chance. But she also told me to not keep my hopes up :(. (it's not so fair anymore.. )

I still love her so much. We had bad moments but the good ones still made me believe into this relation.

If this helps, she just started cegep and got a part time job. We would see each other every Tuesday and some Thursday's. She said times are difficult and stuff but we were able to organize our schedules.

I really don't know what to do. I need some help please. She is my first girlfriend and I was her first serious boyfriend (her ex was suicidal).

Also I don't know if this helps, but she always used to say that she doesn't believe in "hope" and stuff like that. Also, her mother always used to tell her that she deserves better than me but my girlfriend, or ex, used to tell me that she doesn't listen to her mom.

[John Bold]

Dear young guy,

As a 30 years old person who had hundreds of dates in his past, I can tell you that there is no hope for your situation.

When a girl/woman starts talking like that, that means that's it. If you are lucky you can extend that breaking up period by few days or weeks(the most) but it's not going to work in the long run.It will only work in a way to hurt your feelings and causing you a deep pain.

If I were you ( actually I was in your situation many many times), I would just look for somebody else. This way at least you would get respect/attention from your girlfriend.

Once they are in that mood, there is no way of changing it back...

Good luck, don't think about it...

[mizzsuperunique]

Okay I'm a 17 yrs old girl.. and she's going to breakup with you she's just trying to let you get pepared for the worst so it won't hurt so much in the end. But if or when she do.. let her know you was there for her and make it easy for her and you but also let her know she a Bi*** for putting you threw this the best way as possible...

[membrane]

Hey
I can understand,but the way I see it she wanted to move on so she did... now you must move on too...
Life doesn't stop because she isn't in your life,go out have fun with friends, cath random movie ,keep yourself busy. If she wants to be your best friend rather then girl friend so be it just keep your distance at arms length and move on.

[LOLlover]

Stop obsessing so much,calm down and think.Obviously she is not interested in the relationship anymore, she's probably had a hard life being put down by her mum and her ex suicidal boyfriend give her time and space then talk to her about your feelings .No shouting ,just talking