[Separator]

So there is this girl I met 3 years ago and we dated for a few months back then but I ended up breaking things off with her because she was looking for a relationship with me and I was still not over a breakup with my ex who had been with for 5 years prior. I didn't break it off with this girl to go back to my ex. My ex and I never got back together. I liked this girl, but I just didn't think it was fair to the girl to keep seeing her when she wanted more than I was ready to give. I just wasn't ready for an exclusive relationship with her, or any girl for that matter. Breaking it off with her was one of the hardest things I ever did and to this day I regret it. We have remained friends, not close friends, but friends, over these past three years and we get together every now and then for drinks. Every time I see her I realize how much I like her and how big of a mistake I made by telling her I couldn't see her anymore. She just recently moved very close to me (literally right down the street from me) and I know she does not have a boyfriend at the moment.

So last Thursday I took her to dinner for her birthday. We probably hang out once a month. After I dropped her off I just told her that I want to take her out on a real date. She said "Yeah that should be good...let me think about it...but that would be nice." or something along those lines. I understand why she might have to think about it and I'm guessing its because of my past history with her and how when she started to really like me I bailed on her. I am completely, 100% moved on and healed from my ex. I still like this girl and can see myself being in a relationship with her. I am concerned about her response... she didn't flat out say no and that she just wanted to be friends, she said yes somewhat but that she had to think about it. I understand she might be cautious because she doesn't want to get hurt by me again... but how can I assure her that I am over the past, I have changed for the better since then and that I really like her and want to date her?

I was thinking sending her a text or a message assuring her of that. Good idea or bad? I feel like I can't just wait around for her to "think about it" and get back to me. I wish I had told her that night what I want to tell her now and I feel that its important that I let her know that she wouldn't just be a "rebound" this time, and that I really like her. Even if she doesn't want to date me I still feel like I want to let her know how I truly feel. Whatever the outcome I know it isn't the end of the world. But I don't want to regret at least not trying.

[Homegirl 50]

If she does not respond to you in say a week, call her. Don't text. That is so juvenile. Talk to her.