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karabella · Mar 7, 2007, 11:04 AM

Over the last couple years I have become friends with a coworker (who is single). When he first started working here I was at the end of a relationship and not ready to explore new people. Now I'm ready to date again.

I'm concerned that if I ask him out it could ruin a good working relationship. I've had the impression that he's interested from time to time, but he is also quite shy. On the other hand, I've gotten to know him and think very highly of him. Life does not wait forever and I wonder if I should risk the safety of the status quo?

Fr_Chuck · Mar 7, 2007, 11:29 AM

I was told years ago not to "fish" in a company pond, I broke the rules on many occasions and it has always been a disaster.

Unless this is the person of your dream and you never break up with them, it is OK, but if you ever break up your working relationship will never be the same

Lowtax4eva · Mar 7, 2007, 12:57 PM

Very true, things could get weird at work afterwards. But if this is just a part time job and you really want to see where it could go, go for it. If things don't work out and work gets weird look for a new job.

angelica · Mar 8, 2007, 01:31 AM

I agree, if it a part time job, things are sdimplified for you.If its your regular job do some brainstorming.
Depends on how much you want to take the risk, and I would love to know what your risk assessment came to, because for one you should know that if things don't turn out well in the long run, and you have to see each after that could you be able to handle that.
Just a few points you should put down while thinking of asking him out, are

From your communications with him, what is the most probable answer that he will give.. a yes or no.
If he does give the yes, can you handle the what next...
To play it safe , I think you should consider doing a group office outing, test the waters before you take the deep! And give it time, his mind might be going through the same querries

talaniman · Mar 8, 2007, 02:53 PM

There are better places to find some one, and safer too, as you never know when a relationship will affect your job status. A bad date could get one of you fired then what?