[Pandafuz]

We've been together for only a short time and most of that time I have been in traing for the military. She says to me all the time she's never been with someone who makes her as happy as I do, however, she's also said she's only orgasmed once in her life. We haven't had sex yet but she keeps fantasizing about us and says she's woken up from dreams about us touching herself. I believe her because she was we've never lied to each other.

[Fr_Chuck]

You let her tell you exactly what she likes and wants while you are doing it. Normally this will happen in foreplay, not during actual intercourse

[WisperWill70]

Don't borrow problems and anxiety. You haven't even had sex yet! There's no reason to expect that your sex life will be abnormal or that you can't satisfy your girlfriend even if she's never had an orgasm or only a few. It sounds like she has the hots for you, finds you attractive and is even exploring her own sexuality (thinking of you)... this is a good start!

When you get down to it and have sex those first few times don't make her orgasm a thing to "win" -- instead listen to her, listen to your own body and make the physical connection/intimacy and being present be more important than scoring an O.

[Pandafuz]

Thanks guys, I kind of figured but I wanted to convince my girl there was nothing wrong with her, when she told me she thought something was wrong so I've been gathering all kinds of info to convince her otherwise