[idohair1]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years:... I love him he is a great guy but our sex life sucks... he cums to fast which is fine but he can NEVER get it bak up which makes me frustrated because wats the point... I have also had his child and now I have completely no sex drive... so a combination of no sex drive and bad sex is taking a toll on our relationship... he has no insurance so he can't see a doctor about the issue and I don't know what to do... I can't marry a man who never pleases me sexually but by leaving I feel I will be making the biggest mistake because he is a great person... so now a part of me feels like I will have to sacrifice my happiness to be with a great guy... idk what to do...

[mmresd]

Have you tried to get it up again, or do you just pressure him into getting it up, maybe you are the problem. Remember that pressure when talking about sexual performance can have a big toll on the male brain, enough of a toll to cut the performance. Be nice, be naughty, ask him what he likes, maybe implement something into your sexual routine that he is not used to... every guy likes that. I agree that sex is crucial in a relationship, but sex is made up of two people, not one, if you watch with expectations for more and he fails, it is your job to help out, after all, it is you that is being left unsatisfied.