[sweetycakes]

Okay I been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and we had a baby together ,he's 45 I'm 21 . Well about 5 months into our relationship things started to change he didn't kiss me anymore didn't want to have sex with me. Then I got pregnant and he would just go out every weekend clubbing and just turn his phone off. He even went out with a girl I know, dropped her home and everything and said I could come. He would go out with everyone and there gfs and I would be the only one not to get a invite. He lies to me so much and just left me at home pregnant. He didn't even come see me on my 21st. He went out clubbing instead. He eyes girls up and down in front of me and says yum yum and comments like that. Also he got me arrested and then just went out to a woman's. I thought he cheated on me with this party.

He's hit me and is very private with his email but would make me go threw mine . He accused me a lot, so one day I stayed at another mans house because I was so hurt how he called me fat and ugly and accused me 24 7 and lied to me all week telling me he's so ill he can't even get out of bed and couldn't talk to me on phone when he was out all week. He also put drugs in my drink and stole my iPod, hit me in my face and never paid for anything not baby.

Also he use to threaten me with suicide and make me chase him around and he did take all the tablets he had and ended up in hospital with his whole family blaming me . Why do I keep allowing this man back in my life when he's so bad to me ? Oh and we never had sex or even kissed . We would have sex once every two months and kissed about 8 months ago . He is also a compulsive liar . And I found a condom and stripper card and porn mag and cam porn on computer he denies all this to be him . He's son did use computer and looks at porn as well. He said the mag was his sons and the condom was his friends who he borrowed jeans to and the strippers card been there years .

[JudyKayTee]

Okay I been with my bf for 2 and a half years and we had a baby together ,he's 45 I'm 21 . Well about 5 months into our relationship things started to change he didn't kiss me anymore didn't want to have sex with me. Then I got pregnant and he would just go out every weekend clubing and just turn his phone off , he even went out with a girl I no droped her home everything and said I could come. He would go out with everyone and there gfs and I would be the only one not to get a invite .he lies to me so much to he just left me at home pregnant he didn't even come see me on my 21st he went out clubing instead. He eyes girls up and down in front of me and says yum yum and comments like that also he got me arrested and then just went out to a womans I thought he cheated on me withs party. He's hit me and is very private with his email but would make me go threw mine . He acussed me a lot, so one day I stayed at another mans house because I was so hurt how he called me fat and ugly and acussed me 24 7 and lied to me all week telling me he's so ill he can't even get out of bed and couldn't talk to me on phone when he was out all week. He also put drugs in my drink and stole my ipod, hit me in my face and never paid for anything not baby.also he use to threaten me with sucide and make me chase him around and he did take all the tablets he had and ended up in hospital with his whole family blaming me . Why do I keep allowing this man back in my life when he's so bad to me ? Oh and we never had sex or even kissed . We would have sex once every two months and kissed about 8 months ago . He is also a compulsive liar . And I found a condom and stripper card and porn mag and cam porn on computer he denys all this to be him . He's son did use computer and look at porn aswell , he said the mag was his sons and the condom was his friends who he borrowed jeans to and the strippers card been there years .

This is so bizarre I'm not sure it's real, but, anyway -

For starters you never had sex but you have a baby together? How do you think that happened?

I'd walk away. He lies and cheats and steals. Why are you even interested in being with him.

You were probably 17 or 18 when you met him? This can be a problem with a young woman/older man.

[maddy6]

Your relationship sounds severely dysfunctional and abusive. You have a baby to raise and be concerned about. Stop thinking about yourself and the false dreams and hopes you have for a relationship with this man. Move on. Set up disciplines and guidelines for yourself to follow in how you are going to keep this man out of your life, and then DO it. If you continue with this relationship there will only be more heartache and pain, and it will eventually end anyway. Get off this train at the next stop, which is right NOW and move on with your young life. You need counseling to help you understand why you have allowed this abusive treatment of yourself to continue. Perhaps you are very young and that has influenced it? Move on now and get this abusive relationship out of your system.

[talaniman]

Maybe you were young and dumb, but you don't have to stay that way. Leave tomorrow.

[Fr_Chuck]

If you let him back in, you are just accepting abuse, I feel sorry for you till the first time he hits you, if you stay or go back, it is your desire to be abused.

You walk away, don't answer phone calls, don't read email, change your phone number.