[bubblegumxox]

"you ask a lot of questions"

That's what we do here. That's why this is such a terrific site. We ask questions and we care about the people (not "ppl") who visit or become members.

Them I said ye as in the people on the site not you as in directed at one person.

[Wondergirl]

em I said ye as in the people on the site not you as in directed at one person.

I changed "ye" to "you," by the way.

You said that directly to Judy.

How about you use your life experience and the good things you have learned to help other teens/kids who post on the site. Don't go on the legal or medical boards, but write good English (set a good example for others), and do your best to help someone else. I'll keep an eye on you and let you know if your advice isn't the best, but will praise you if it is good advice. What do you think?

[bubblegumxox]

I changed "ye" to "you," by the way.

You said that directly to Judy.

How about you use your life experience and the good things you have learned to help other teens/kids who post on the site. Don't go on the legal or medical boards, but write good English (set a good example for others), and do your best to help someone else. I'll keep an eye on you and let you know if your advice isn't the best, but will praise you if it is good advice. What do you think?

Em yeah okay but I didn't mean to say it directly to Judy

[Wondergirl]

Yes, punctuation matters. In fact, I have here a bag of commas I am now giving to you. I want you to use them faithfully. If you run out, let me know and I will give you a new bag. Since you are so nice, I won't charge you. They are free just for you. Okay?

I want to see commas in your posts -- and put them in the right places, or I will take your bag away and give you a time out in the comma factory.

[bubblegumxox]

Yes, punctuation matters. In fact, I have here a bag of commas I am now giving to you. I want you to use them faithfully. If you run out, let me know and I will give you a new bag. Since you are so nice, I won't charge you. They are free just for you. Okay?

I want to see commas in your posts -- and put them in the right places, or I will take your bag away and give you a time out in the comma factory.

Okay... That sounds like something my English teacher would say

[Alty]

Yea because you ask a lot of questions and I really hate being judged but I don't let it get to me

You don't want questions, you don't want to be judged, but you started this thread about cutting, you posted that you're proud of your cutting scars. We didn't ask you to write about this, you chose to, but now we're judging and asking too many questions?

Why did you start this thread? I can't see a single reason other than you wanting attention. What did you expect, answer wise, when you posted this question?

Sorry, but I agree with your friends.

[bubblegumxox]

You don't want questions, you don't want to be judged, but you started this thread about cutting, you posted that you're proud of your cutting scars. We didn't ask you to write about this, you chose to, but now we're judging and asking too many questions?

Why did you start this thread? I can't see a single reason other than you wanting attention. What did you expect, answer wise, when you posted this question?

Sorry, but I agree with your friends.

Okay. That's your opinion.

[Wlliephant]

Do you self harm... I've scratched a load of my skin of before doing self harming and I've got scars on girl who I thought was one of my mates started trying to do what I had done and it really pissed me of I couldn't tel anyone and I just had to cope... in the end I made sure that whatever happened I couldn't let her get to me I would look down at her whenever she tried to imitate me for attention and now she tries to be nice to me, I hope your okay and be the stronger person... look back at what you've done and make yourself believe your much stronger than that..

[bubblegumxox]

Do you self harm...I've scratched a load of my skin of before doing self harming and I've got scars on girl who I thought was one of my mates started trying to do what I had done and it really pissed me of I couldn't tel anyone and I just had to cope...in the end I made sure that whatever happened I couldn't let her get to me I would look down at her whenever she tried to imitate me for attention and now she tries to be nice to me, I hope your okay and be the stronger person...look back at what you've done and make yourself believe your much stronger than that..

Yeah I self harm. Thanks for your comment.

[JudyKayTee]

yeah I self harm. Thanks for your comment.

I thought you said you stopped - ?

[Wondergirl]

I thought you said you stopped - ?

You notice, though, she is typing complete words now (not texting) and using punctuation. She has come a long way as far as that goes. How can we get her to stop cutting? Or can we?

[bubblegumxox]

You notice, though, she is typing complete words now (not texting) and using punctuation. She has come a long way as far as that goes. How can we get her to stop cutting? or can we?

Sorry for interrupting your conversation,but there's no way to get me to stop cutting. It happens over time. Therapy is really all that can stop me.

[Wondergirl]

Sorry for interrupting your conversation,but there's no way to get me to stop cutting. It happens over time. Therapy is really all that can stop me.

You do know why you cut, right?

[bubblegumxox]

You do know why you cut, right?

No. I'm working on it.

[Wondergirl]

You can stop today.

[bubblegumxox]

You can stop today.

It's not that easy.

[Wondergirl]

Yes, it is. All you have to do is substitute another behavior for the cutting.

[bubblegumxox]

Yes, it is. All you have to do is substitute another behavior for the cutting.

It's easier said than done. What do you mean by "another behavior for cutting."

[Wondergirl]

I used to have a horrible habit that was becoming visible to people and I couldn't hide it any longer. I hated myself and was terribly embarrassed and even ashamed when people would mention it and sort of back away from me in horror. I'm a problem solver, so I thought to myself, "This has to stop. How can I stop it?"

I thought about all the good things I do with my hands (what I used to use for this bad thing when I was alone). I love to type and be on the computer. I made a pact with myself. No more doing this bad thing, and every time I had the urge to do it, I would go over to the computer and use my hands to type and work on one of my stories or type some emails to friends or whatever--but I would type, not do the bad thing.

It worked! It was a drag at first, but I had promised myself I would stop with the bad thing, so I hauled my body over to the computer a lot at first. Over about two weeks it got easier and easier to just not do the bad thing without going to the computer. Total time to quit the bad thing was about a month. It was hard work to stick to my promise to myself. Meanwhile, I got lots of typing done!

[bubblegumxox]

Sounds like a good idea. I do something to stop me, but it doesn't work all the time.