[Alty]

How is it a sad situation

You're cutting yourself, so desperate to have a boyfriend that you asked how to get one online. Your mom is fed up with you, because you're not being a good kid.

How is that not a sad situation?

[bubblegumxox]

You're cutting yourself, so desperate to have a boyfriend that you asked how to get one online. Your mom is fed up with you, because you're not being a good kid.

How is that not a sad situation?

Im not desperate I think its easier to take advice off a stranger than someone I know
My mom isn't fed up of me I'm working my way back up to her level of respect
I cut myself because it's a bad habit and I'm getting help sooo I don't think it's a sad situation... what's sad is someone judging yo when they only know what you've done NOT what you've been through

[Wondergirl]

what you've been through

What have you been through?

[bubblegumxox]

What have you been through?

A lot I'm not going to say everything but ilk say a few things...
I was sexually abused as a child
I watched my dad die in front of me
I have been beaten by an ex step dad
I have lost some of my siblings
I have been bullied in school
And it goes on but I'm not going to say anymore

[Wondergirl]

A lot im not gonna say everything but ilk say a few things ...
I was sexually abused as a child
I watched my dad die in front of me
I have been beaten by an ex step dad
I have lost some of my siblings
I have been bullied in school
And it goes on but I'm not goin to say anymore

Have you reported the abuse and beatings and bullying? Gotten counseling for any of this?

[bubblegumxox]

Have you reported the abuse and beatings and bullying? gotten counseling for any of this?

Yes and yes like I said before I'm getting help in everything and I'm getting better

[Homegirl 50]

I was not judging you. I was saying all of these questions you are asking, all of these concerns you have is a sad situation. If all of these things you just mentioned has happened, it is a sad situation.

[bubblegumxox]

I was not judging you. I was saying all of these questions you are asking, all of these concerns you have is a sad situation. If all of these things you just mentioned has happened, it is a sad situation.

But its not really like all of these things happened for a reason.
Nothing is an accident
And all those things that happened aren't that sad it kind of shows my true colours... A little scared little who can't say to someone "No"

[Homegirl 50]

I find all of these things happening in the life of a 13 year old sad, then coupled with this need you have to have a boyfriend to kiss you in the rain and all the other post of yours, show a lonely young girl. I find that sad. Not in a judging way, but as a mom, a 13 year old life should not have that much grief.

[Wondergirl]

But its not really like all of these things happened for a reason.

Huh?

Nothing is an accident

Double huh?

And all those things that happened aren't that sad it kind of shows my true colours... A little scared little who can't say to someone "No"

Triple huh?

Please explain all that.

[Alty]

A lot im not gonna say everything but ilk say a few things ...
I was sexually abused as a child
I watched my dad die in front of me
I have been beaten by an ex step dad
I have lost some of my siblings
I have been bullied in school
And it goes on but I'm not goin to say anymore

I was molested from the age of 5 to around 12 by my cousin.

I was raped at 18.

I watched both my parents die in front of me, 6 months apart.

I was beaten by multiple idiot boyfriends, have a lovely scar on my forehead from a guy that bashed my head into the windshield of his car because I wouldn't have sex with him. When my head broke his windshield he was so angry that he beat me up some more He was a prince compared to some of the others.

I never had siblings. When my parents dies, I was on my own.

I was bullied at school.

I used sex as a way to numb myself from feeling all the things I went through, in other words, I let guys use and abuse me, because I thought I deserved it for "allowing" myself to be molested and raped.

There's more... but like you, I won't post it.

In other words, I've been there, done that. Now you're doing it.

When you first asked how to get a boyfriend, my initial reaction was "this girl needs a boyfriend, just like you needed one". The thing is, I never needed one. I wanted one because I was afraid to be alone, and I wanted someone to show me that I was better than what others had treated me like. Sadly most of them showed me the opposite.

Is that why you want to be kissed in the rain? You're looking for romance, hoping it's better than what you've already been through.

You need therapy. You need help. You do not need a boyfriend, and you shouldn't have one until you have yourself figured out.

What you want doesn't exist, because it's not about any guy. No guy, no kiss in the rain, none of that will fill the void. None of that will help. You need to fix you! You need help.

[bubblegumxox]

I was molested from the age of 5 to around 12 by my cousin.

I was raped at 18.

I watched both my parents die in front of me, 6 months apart.

I was beaten by multiple idiot boyfriends, have a lovely scar on my forehead from a guy that bashed my head into the windshield of his car because I wouldn't have sex with him. When my head broke his windshield he was so angry that he beat me up some more He was a prince compared to some of the others.

I never had siblings. When my parents dies, I was on my own.

I was bullied at school.

I used sex as a way to numb myself from feeling all the things I went through, in other words, I let guys use and abuse me, because I thought I deserved it for "allowing" myself to be molested and raped.

There's more....but like you, I won't post it.

In other words, I've been there, done that. Now you're doing it.

When you first asked how to get a boyfriend, my initial reaction was "this girl needs a boyfriend, just like you needed one". The thing is, I never needed one. I wanted one because I was afraid to be alone, and I wanted someone to show me that I was better than what others had treated me like. Sadly most of them showed me the opposite.

Is that why you want to be kissed in the rain? You're looking for romance, hoping it's better than what you've already been through.

You need therapy. You need help. You do not need a boyfriend, and you shouldn't have one until you have yourself figured out.

What you want doesn't exist, because it's not about any guy. No guy, no kiss in the rain, none of that will fill the void. None of that will help. You need to fix you! You need help.

Omfg I'm getting help like and its okay now
A lad I like asked me ou so I won't need anymore answers
And its terrible what happened to you it is but I'm not trying to get a boyfriend because it takes the pain away from what I've been true like I have felt what love feels like everyone has no matter what age and I get that feeling when I'm with this lad

[JudyKayTee]

Omfg I'm getting help like and its okay now
A lad I like asked me ou so I won't need anymore answers
And its terrible what happened to you it is but I'm not tryin to get a boyfriend coz it takes the pain away from what I've been true like I have felt what love feels like everyone has no matter what age and I get that feeling when I'm with this lad

No, it's not okay now - you cut yourself and you're proud of your scars, so proud that you brag about them. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html

I can't imagine any "lad" wanting to get involved with you on any level.

Alty put it very clearly - you enjoy the attention and you are very transparent. If we can see it, "lads" can see it.

[JudyKayTee]

Ha so I saw it in a movie and now that's my big dream to kiss a lad in d rain ha and I'm not stupid ino he won't fill that emotional hole on my life ha

No, I don't think you do know this.

You need some serious, professional help.

I think if all your threads were combined it would add some background to this story.

[Homegirl 50]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/childr...-689185-2.html

I think you have a lot going on in your life. You don't need a boyfriend. The drama that could comes with that complicates your life even more.

[bubblegumxox]

No, it's not okay now - you cut yourself and you're proud of your scars, so proud that you brag about them. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html

I can't imagine any "lad" wanting to get involved with you on any level.

Alty put it very clearly - you enjoy the attention and you are very transparent. If we can see it, "lads" can see it.

Them I enjoy what attention

[bubblegumxox]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/childr...-689185-2.html

I think you have a lot going on in your life. You don't need a boyfriend. The drama that could comes with that complicates your life even more.

My life isn't complicated

[Wondergirl]

My life isn't complicated

Let me see:

1. school
2. family
3. counseling for being sexually abused as a child, watching your dad die in front of you, being beaten by an ex step dad, losing siblings, being bullied in school, and it goes on but you're not going to say any more
4. cutting deep enough to leave scars
5. wanting a boyfriend
6. wishing for a romance like in the movies
7. dealing with a new boyfriend and keeping him interested
8. wanting to find ways for your mom to be proud of you after you disappointed her terribly by doing something bad

[JudyKayTee]

em I enjoy what attention

In the event this is a question and not a statement you enjoy the attention cutting gets you - starting with how proud you are of your scars.

Anyone interested in "being" your boyfriend is going to run for the hills when he sees your scars and realizes you have, at best, issues.

[JudyKayTee]

Lemme see:

1. school
2. family
3. counseling for being sexually abused as a child, watching your dad die in front of you, being beaten by an ex step dad, losing siblings, being bullied in school, and it goes on but you're not going to say any more
4. cutting deep enough to leave scars
5. wanting a boyfriend
6. wishing for a romance like in the movies
7. dealing with a new boyfriend and keeping him interested

You left out disappointing her mother. Oh, and kissing in the rain.

And she doesn't need any more (or anymore) answers - "A lad I like asked me ou so I won't need anymore answers"