[tjcurtis1731]

Me and my husband are young and married and we live with my mom until she kicked him out. He has been with us for 2 years and he has been trying to find a job that will take him in to help pay for stuff. My mom owns the house and she threw his stuff on the sidewalk in bags. Is she allowed to do that?

[JudyKayTee]

Me and my husband are young and married and we live with my mom until she kicked him out. He has been with us for 2 years and he has been trying to find a job that will take him in to help pay for stuff. My mom owns the house and she threw his stuff on the sidewalk in bags. Is she allowed to do that?

In theory she has to evict him according to State law.

He's been with "us"? I thought it was your mother's house.

No, she's not allowed to do that. Did he get "thrown out" for a reason?

[tjcurtis1731]

In theory she has to evict him according to State law.

He's been with "us"? I thought it was your mother's house.

No, she's not allowed to do that. Did he get "thrown out" for a reason?

It is my mothers house but I am only a teenager. And she said to me that she kicked him out because he won't help with anything when he is trying to find a job that will take him to help my mom out but she has other people living with her doing the same thing that my husband was doing and she hasn't kicked them out

[JudyKayTee]

it is my mothers house but i am only a teenager. And she said to me that she kicked him out because he wont help with anything when he is trying to find a job that will take him to help my mom out but she has other people living with her doing the same thing that my husband was doing and she hasnt kicked them out

It's her house so she gets to make the rules.

She needs to evict him according to law. I don't know that it's worth arguing the law with her or you will also find yourself out of the house.

Who supports the two of you? Do you work?

[tjcurtis1731]

It's her house so she gets to make the rules.

She needs to evict him according to law. I don't know that it's worth arguing the law with her or you will also find yourself out of the house.

Who supports the two of you? Do you work?

My mom supports us both because I am having a hard time looking for a job because of my age. And its hard for him to get a job for other reasons.

[JudyKayTee]

my mom supports us both because i am having a hard time looking for a job because of my age. And its hard for him to get a job for other reasons.

Again, bad enough she has to support you, her daughter. Now she has to support both you and your husband. I can understand her concern.

But, again, she needs to evict him. Where is he living now?

I'm almost afraid to ask this but how old are you and how long have you been married?

[tjcurtis1731]

Again, bad enough she has to support you, her daughter. Now she has to support both you and your husband. I can understand her concern.

But, again, she needs to evict him. Where is he living now?

I'm almost afraid to ask this but how old are you and how long have you been married?

He is staying with a friend at the moment and I am 17 almost 18 and we have been married for a year and 2 months

[AK lawyer]

So you were 16 when you were married. Just out of curiosity, which state or country are you in? I assume you had parental consent to marry? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriag...#North_America

[tjcurtis1731]

So you were 16 when you were married. Just out of curiosity, which state or country are you in?

Yes I was 16 when I got married and I am in Ohio

[Alty]

yes i was 16 when i got married and i am in ohio

Did your mom or dad give you consent to get married at 16? Written consent, not verbal.

[tjcurtis1731]

Did your mom or dad give you consent to get married at 16? Written consent, not verbal.

My mom and dad are divorce and since my mom has full custody my mom signed the papers saying that we are allowed to get married because he was 18

[JudyKayTee]

Did your mom or dad give you consent to get married at 16? Written consent, not verbal.

Now I'm going to change direction. Seems to me that when you allow/sign for your 16-year old to get married there is some level of expectation that you, the parent, will be at least part of the support. On the other hand - for how long?

I think this is sad. Every McDonalds, Burger King, fast food "restaurant" in my area is looking for help. I'm not saying it's a good paying job. I'm saying it's a job.

[tjcurtis1731]

Now I'm going to change direction. Seems to me that when you allow/sign for your 16-year old to get married there is some level of expectation that you, the parent, will be at least part of the support. On the other hand - for how long?

I think this is sad. Every McDonalds, Burger King, fast food "restaurant" in my area is looking for help. I'm not saying it's a good paying job. I'm saying it's a job.

Yeah I mean I am looking and looking and some places won't take me until I am 18

[Alty]

Now I'm going to change direction. Seems to me that when you allow/sign for your 16-year old to get married there is some level of expectation that you, the parent, will be at least part of the support. On the other hand - for how long?

I think this is sad. Every McDonalds, Burger King, fast food "restaurant" in my area is looking for help. I'm not saying it's a good paying job. I'm saying it's a job.

I agree. I don't know what mom was thinking, or if she was. I can say I never would have agreed to let my child get married at 16. If I did, they wouldn't be living under my roof eating the food I provide.

But, she did allow this, and obviously accepted that by allowing this she'd have one more mouth to feed. Having said that, she doesn't have to support the husband. She can kick him out. But she does have to do it legally. News flash, she can kick you out too.

I do have to ask. Why did you get married so young? Obviously you can't support yourselves. You're not adults. So why? Did you just want to play house? If so, get your own house!

[Alty]

yeah i mean i am looking and looking and some places wont take me until i am 18

Most retail and fast food places hire from 14 and older. You're 17. Have you applied at McDonalds? Has your husband?

[tjcurtis1731]

I agree. I don't know what mom was thinking, or if she was. I can say I never would have agreed to let my child get married at 16. If I did, they wouldn't be living under my roof eating the food I provide.

But, she did allow this, and obviously accepted that by allowing this she'd have one more mouth to feed. Having said that, she doesn't have to support the husband. She can kick him out. But she does have to do it legally. News flash, she can kick you out too.

I do have to ask. Why did you get married so young? Obviously you can't support yourselves. You're not adults. So why? Did you just want to play house? If so, get your own house!

Yeah I know she can kick me out to but she won't. We got married because I was pergnant at the time before I lost it and my mom was willing to take us in because none of us had jobs to support ourselves yet and every where we look for a job no one will hire us. We have tried all kinds of fast food places.

[JudyKayTee]

I agree. I don't know what mom was thinking, or if she was. I can say I never would have agreed to let my child get married at 16. If I did, they wouldn't be living under my roof eating the food I provide.

But, she did allow this, and obviously accepted that by allowing this she'd have one more mouth to feed. Having said that, she doesn't have to support the husband. She can kick him out. But she does have to do it legally. News flash, she can kick you out too.

I do have to ask. Why did you get married so young? Obviously you can't support yourselves. You're not adults. So why? Did you just want to play house? If so, get your own house!

You summed it up - I know there are exceptions but I wouldn't want my daughter to limit her life at age 16 in this fashion.

Sigh -

[Alty]

yeah i know she can kick me out to but she wont. we got married because i was pergnant at the time before i lost it and my mom was willing to take us in because none of us had jobs to support our selfs yet and every where we look for a job noone will hire us. we have tried all kinds of fast food places.

How many applications do you fill out every day? How many resumes do you hand out every day? When you're looking for work that's your job. You should be getting up at 7am, showered, dressed and out the door by 8:30. From 8:30am- 4:30pm, you should be handing out resumes and filling out applications. You should be going to the job board, the unemployment office (most times they have listings of jobs that are available).

Are you doing that? Be honest.

What time did you leave your house this morning to start handing out applications and resumes? When did you get back?

[tjcurtis1731]

How many applications do you fill out every day? How many resumes do you hand out every day? When you're looking for work that's your job. You should be getting up at 7am, showered, dressed and out the door by 8:30. From 8:30am- 4:30pm, you should be handing out resumes and filling out applications. You should be going to the job board, the unemployment office (most times they have listings of jobs that are available).

Are you doing that? Be honest.

What time did you leave your house this morning to start handing out applications and resumes? When did you get back?

Its really hard for me to do all of that when my mom works and I can't drive yet. I put in like 20 applications in a day and I still get nothing back from anything and when my mom gets hoome she is to tried to take me and get applications from places.

[JudyKayTee]

its really hard for me to do all of that when my mom works and i can't drive yet. i put in like 20 applications in a day and i still get nothing back from anything and when my mom gets hoome she is to tried to take me and get applications from places.

I find it difficult to believe you put in 100 applications a week.

I do believe you are sincere. I'm just not too sure you are being totally honest and/or realistic.

And while you are going door to door what is your husband doing?

Also - I honestly am sorry that you lost your baby. That's a death, a loss. Women who haven't experienced the loss don't necessarily understand it. I really am sorry.