[tjcurtis1731]

I find it difficult to believe you put in 100 applications a week.

I do believe you are sincere. I'm just not too sure you are being totally honest and/or realistic.

And while you are going door to door what is your husband doing?

Also - I honestly am sorry that you lost your baby. That's a death, a loss. Women who haven't experienced the loss don't necessarily understand it. I really am sorry.

Thank you and what my husband is doing is out finding a job also he has a friend he has been staying with taking him out and finding jobs.

[JudyKayTee]

thank you and what my husband is doing is out finding a job also he has a friend he has been staying with taking him out and finding jobs.

I wish you luck - sounds like it's been traumatic and you are both trying to survive.

Can you talk to your mother, calmly and rationally? Is she angry with your husband because of the pregnancy and this is her chance to blow off steam?

You know, this happens to me every now and then. Your thread, your question, really has touched me. This is one of those questions where I swear if we were face to face I'd hug you and tell you it's going to be all right. I don't know why sometimes I just feel the pain.

[tjcurtis1731]

Thank you so much and I will try and talk to my mom and I hope that she will let him move back in if not then I guess I am staying with him until we can find a place of out own. Thank you so much for helping me out.

[JudyKayTee]

thank you so much and i will try and talk to my mom and i hope that she will let him move back in if not then i guess i am staying with him until we can find a place of out own. thank you so much for helping me out.

Keep us posted, okay? Give your Mom a chance to understand, calm down.

Throwing his stuff out the door makes me think she lost it -

But keep me informed, please.

[Fr_Chuck]

Perhaps this will help motivate him to get a job. Sorry in a couple of years there is no excuse, at some job.

[JudyKayTee]

thank you so much and i will try and talk to my mom and i hope that she will let him move back in if not then i guess i am staying with him until we can find a place of out own. thank you so much for helping me out.

And I will add - I have a niece I love dearly. She is part daughter, part friend, part inspiration. She got pregnant at 16, got married, had the baby, had a second baby in one year (exactly), went back to school, got her GED, got admitted to a local Community College, turned that into a College degree, worked in fast food restaurants and cleaned houses and she and her husband did what they could do so she could get her degree and raise her kids.

Her boys have never been in trouble (both of them are big time jocks), one just got married, she is absolute proof that you can meet the love of your life at 14, have a baby, get married (not exactly in that order) and be happy - which is more important than "successful," whatever that word means.

She's a good person, kind, giving. Her mother washed her hands of her when she found out she was pregnant (every family seems to have one of those people) and she lived with me for a while.

She and her mother have remained estranged over all these years - and that's a shame because her mother, my sister, will never, ever know what a fine person she is.

So, yes, you can work it all out.

[Alty]

its really hard for me to do all of that when my mom works and i can't drive yet. i put in like 20 applications in a day and i still get nothing back from anything and when my mom gets hoome she is to tried to take me and get applications from places.

Question. Why are you applying to places that you obviously can't get to once you get the job? If you can't get yourself there to fill out an application, or drop of a resume, and your mom is too busy to drive you, then how are you planning on getting to work if you get the job?

Makes no sense.

[tjcurtis1731]

And I will add - I have a niece I love dearly. She is part daughter, part friend, part inspiration. She got pregnant at 16, got married, had the baby, had a second baby in one year (exactly), went back to school, got her GED, got admitted to a local Community College, turned that into a College degree, worked in fast food restaurants and cleaned houses and she and her husband did what they could do so she could get her degree and raise her kids.

Her boys have never been in trouble (both of them are big time jocks), one just got married, she is absolute proof that you can meet the love of your life at 14, have a baby, get married (not exactly in that order) and be happy - which is more important than "successful," whatever that word means.

She's a good person, kind, giving. Her mother washed her hands of her when she found out she was pregnant (every family seems to have one of those people) and she lived with me for a while.

She and her mother have remained estranged over all these years - and that's a shame because her mother, my sister, will never, ever know what a fine person she is.

So, yes, you can work it all out.

I will surely keep you updated and thank you so much for all of this. And I do hope that everything will work out with my family and my husband

[tjcurtis1731]

Question. Why are you applying to places that you obviously can't get to once you get the job? If you can't get yourself there to fill out an application, or drop of a resume, and your mom is too busy to drive you, then how are you planning on getting to work if you get the job?

Makes no sense.

I am appling to jobs that I can walk to in my town

[JudyKayTee]

i will surely keep you updated and thank you so much for all of this. and i do hope that everything will work out with my family and my husband

You'll be okay - stay strong and focused. (By the way, you express yourself remarkably well for your age. Do you write, maybe a blog, diary, short stories, poems? You wouldn't believe what gets posted here, so your posts stand out.)

[Alty]

i am appling to jobs that i can walk to in my town

Then why do you have to wait for your mom to come home and take you out to drop off resumes and applications?

[tjcurtis1731]

You'll be okay - stay strong and focused. (By the way, you express yourself remarkably well for your age. Do you write, maybe a blog, diary, short stories, poems? You wouldn't believe what gets posted here, so your posts stand out.)

Thank you and I don't

[ScottGem]

Having read through this thread, I'm on a fence here. Where were you when mom was throwing his clothes? Why didn't you pack your things and tell her if he goes you go?

Why didn't he call the police? It was illegal for her to throw him out like that.

On the other hand, this is your mother who took you in, when you foolishly let yourself get pregnant.

Are you finishing school? Did he?

[JudyKayTee]

Having read through this thread, I'm on a fence here. Where were you when mom was throwing his clothes? Why didn't you pack your things and tell her if he goes you go?

Why didn't he call the police? It was illegal for her to throw him out like that.

On the other hand, this is your mother who took you in, when you foolishly let yourself get pregnant.

Are you finishing school? Did he?

Am I allowed to guess? I started judging this entire situation. Then I decided (based on nothing but very often faulty intuition) that OP got pregnant young, she and boyfriend did the "right thing" and got married (which often ends up to be the wrong thing), she and her husband move in with her mother who is not terribly happy with either her OR or husband, she ultimately miscarried (which is devastating, been there, done that, it's a death), suddenly there is no reason for the marriage and mother is paying for the adventure, mother watches the son-in-law not working, I will guess both husband and wife have dropped out of school, mother sees her daughter's future floating away and loses it.

I think the OP is caught in a trap of her own making.

We all preach about premarital sex, careless sex, nothing is 100% safe. Threads like this should be required reading.

But - no one listens.

At any rate for whatever reason I feel a great deal of empathy for this girl.

[ScottGem]

Yep, those were my initial guess as well. Most of which seems to have been borne out. I agree, I feel sorry for the OP, but we need more info to help her.

[JudyKayTee]

Yep, those were my initial guess as well. Most of which seems to have been borne out. I agree, I feel sorry for the OP, but we need more info to help her.

Agreed (aren't you glad I didn't MAJOR in Psychology?)