[uandmebaby]

My hhusband and I have a good sexlife his got a high sex drive but so do I- so we keep up with each other- he also looks on my phone and I look at his- the difference is that I don't Google big cocks or hard penises he on the other hand will Google big tits hot girls suck -today's was... hand job in a.public place also our sex life is pretty decent when I have a 18month old girl and a 3month old boy but yet try.moment our kids r sleeping and we both obviously can be bothered we go for it- and if I can't be bothered having sex I still make sure he comes if it's me sucking or pulling regardless unless I've been up all day and night and have no energy then we don't do anything anyway my question is why and what makes him look up this crap use I understand his a man but I'm a woman I'm curious too buy I don't sit there giggling every sexual thought in my head- also I might add my husbands a jealous person and so am I- he doesn't appreciate men looking at me or talking to me unless needed and I wouldn't talk to some random male anyway unless I'm at a drop mad they work there or something like that-but my man is a tradie and gets invited inside.peoples (ladies) homes to renovate them- that's his job so that's that but I just don't know why he.looks this up especially since we talk a lot about sex and sexual things- we also tease (joke) with each other a lot for eg: telling me a girl called him today but he will say it to get me jealous when a girl really did call but to take about a renervation .il try .fo the same but not to that level as I can't I home with 2babies day in day out- any answers welcome jjust want some.outsside advice- thanks

[uandmebaby]

Sorry I'm.writing off a phone and just now re read it once it was posted and seen al the spelling mistakes " i wouldn't talk to some random male unless I was in a shop and they worked there" I got abit off topic is 3:20 am and very sleep deprived like I said two babies under 2- not planned on my account but it's exactly what my man wanted! Also at the end of my question was talking about getting each other jealous how he will stir me saying a girl called they spoke for agers when that really happened but it was all regarding a job also I said I would try to do the same but can't unless I talk about a waiter at the café but he knows I'm saying it to get back to him otherwise I have no come back for him since I'm home with the little ones 24hrs7days a week

[Cat1864]

1. Stop using jealously as foreplay. In the long run it is not healthy for your relationship especially when part of it is payback.

2. Talking about sex is not always the same as discussing and understanding what each other needs.

3. Have you asked him why he googles these 'thoughts'? Each person has their own reason and while I can give you mine or a general answer, he is the only one who can tell you what is going on in his mind.

4. You have two very young children and it sounds like no life outside the house and home unless your husband is involved. That needs to change. Both of you should have time for yourselves away from the home. You both need time with friends or hobbies/interests which help you recharge and keep fresh energy in the marriage. You need some time for you.

5. How much does he do to help take care of the children and house? Being a stay-at-home-mom does not mean you responsible for everything including servicing all of his sexual needs. If you are trying to do it all, he could be getting the feeling that sexual play/intercourse is a chore for you. Are you enjoying yourself when you make certain he gets off but (from what you have said) there doesn't seem to be enough time for you? It is okay for him to take care of his own needs. It is okay for you to do the same.

Talk with him.