[012345]

Help! He's coming over tonight to get his stuff what do I say

[Alty]

Help! He's coming over tonight to get his stuff what do I say

Have his stuff packed up, answer the door, give him his stuff, and say goodbye.

[talaniman]

Have his stuff packed up, answer the door, give him his stuff, and say goodbye.

What she said.

[012345]

Don't get mad at me for asking this. But what's the reason for doing that

[Wondergirl]

Don't get mad at me for asking this. But what's the reason for doing that

It's over.

[012345]

We are on a break

[Wondergirl]

break = no contact for two weeks

[Alty]

Break, breakup, it's really all the same at this point. He's picking up his stuff. Why would he do that if it was only a 2 week break? The reason is so that he doesn't have to contact you again when the two weeks is up and he makes it official. That's the way I'm reading this.

The reason you pack up his things, don't even let him in the house, hand him his stuff and say goodbye, is because you're doing no contact. Even better would be having a mutual friend pick up his stuff for him.

[Wondergirl]

Yup. Everything Alty said.

[odinn7]

So I already have an idea of how this is going to go... tell me if I'm wrong...

You're here asking for our advice and we're giving it to you. Very sound advice really. However, you're not going to listen to it when he comes over, are you?

You'll be back later complaining of or asking us about a new development in the situation and what should you do about it. Right?

[Wondergirl]

Yup. Everything odinn7 said.

(Have you guys done this before?)

[Alty]

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to odinn7 again.

I'd bet you on it, but you'll win.

[012345]

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to odinn7 again.

I'd bet you on it, but you'll win.

What does that mean?

[Alty]

What does that mean?

The red part means that I tried to give Odinn a "helpful answer" reputation, but I recently gave him one and I have to spread the reputation around before I can give him a "helpful answer" rep again.

The second part means that I agree with him, that you will likely not follow any of the advice we've given, and tomorrow, after he comes to pick up his stuff, you'll be back with yet another "I didn't listen, now he's mad, I don't know what to do, is it over" post.

I would make a bet with him that he's wrong, but it's a fools bet, because I'm sure that's exactly what will happen.

I'd love it if you prove me wrong. In other words, I'd love it if you'd actually follow the advice you've been given. But it's not a good bet. So far you haven't done one thing we advised you to do, so it's safe to say that this time won't be any different.

[odinn7]

Ahh... but I was able to give you a +1 for your direct and blunt answer, Alty.

I also would like you to prove us wrong and do what we've said but I see that so far, you haven't listened and just made things worse.

[Alty]

Ahh...but I was able to give you a +1 for your direct and blunt answer, Alty.

I also would like you to prove us wrong and do what we've said but I see that so far, you haven't listened and just made things worse.

You were able to rep me because I rarely say anything inspiring, therefore you had plenty of time to spread the rep. ;) Yes, I'm fishing for compliments. Bring it on. :)

[odinn7]

I do have to say, you amuse me.

[Alty]

I do have to say, you amuse me.

LMAO! If I had a dime for every guy that's ever said that to me, I'd be rich. Just saying. ;)

[012345]

Well here's what happened.
He ended it for good. Told me he had something to tell me and said he didn't want to get back in a relationship.

I thought I would be devrstated. Turned out I was relieved he told me an answer. I laughed when he told me it was over. Idk why but I didn't "beg" for him back or try to be like desperate. I just laughed.

He told me that I wasn't reacting the way he thought I would.. Anyway so I just sent him a text after it was all said and done and said thank you for doing it and I wish him the best.

You guys are going to think I'm stupid for saying this but I still have feeling for him and I want someday for him to come back.

He told me that nothing that I did made his decision for him. He kind of just knew he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore.

I plan on not talking to him anymore and haven't even had the urge to do so. But we will bothe be at the same small university at the end of August and we both have the same friends and hang out spots.

Maybe someday we will rekindle. But right now I will just push him out of my mind and move on. Or make it seem like that.

[Alty]

Good for you. At least now you have an answer and you can move on. Don't move on in the hopes of getting him back. Go out, live your life, date other people, and if it happens, it happens. But don't sit around waiting for it to happen. Okay?

I'm proud of you.