[dazednconfused2]

Ok, so I've read a lot of similar posts over the last few months hoping and praying someone would be in my situation and would have found a solution. Unfortunately, every scenario is just that little different - but in relationships I figure that little is a lot.

So I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 23, we're been together for just over a year now and we're incredibly happy, for the most part. Over the passed few months our sexual relations have truly taken a dive. I have no real idea why.

Firstly, before the scare mongering kicks in, I'm almost 100% certain he is not cheating on me, I know he isn't stressed, he isn't trying to stop smoking or drinking but he does like to smoke the odd spliff here and there.

The problem doesn't seem to be a complete lack of interest, just as if sex is the farthest thing from his mind. No matter what I do he doesn't seem to pick up on the idea I want to have sex. This can include lying next to him naked whilst kissing at his belt line.. he won't twig, and he isn't stupid so it feels more like he's trying to avoid it - which naturally causes me to roll over hurt and upset, feeling worthless and unattractive. However, if it is on his mind he is first to let me know, although this only seems to happen bimonthly now.

I just don't really know where I'm going wrong...

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[JudyKayTee]

Ok, so I've read a lot of similar posts over the last few months hoping and praying someone would be in my situation and would have found a solution. Unfortunately, every scenario is just that little different - but in relationships I figure that little is a lot.

So I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 23, we're been together for just over a year now and we're incredibly happy, for the most part. Over the passed few months our sexual relations have truly taken a dive. I have no real idea why.

Firstly, before the scare mongering kicks in, I'm almost 100% certain he is not cheating on me, I know he isn't stressed, he isn't trying to stop smoking or drinking but he does like to smoke the odd spliff here and there.

The problem doesn't seem to be a complete lack of interest, just as if sex is the farthest thing from his mind. No matter what I do he doesn't seem to pick up on the idea i want to have sex. This can include lying next to him naked whilst kissing at his belt line.. he won't twig, and he isnt stupid so it feels more like hes trying to avoid it - which naturally causes me to roll over hurt and upset, feeling worthless and unattractive. However, if it is on his mind he is first to let me know, although this only seems to happen bimonthly now.

I just don't really know where I'm going wrong...

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

You've been in an intimate relationship for over a year. Ask him.