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Vicksie654 · Jul 22, 2012, 05:36 AM

I have a major problem, my boyfriend of 3 years is amazing but has really become boring. He fights with me if I buy airtime cause he wants to know why do I have the airtime. It feels like I am married already and that's not floating my boat.

So recenlty we met new friends and there is this one guy, AWWW he grabs my attention he is everything I am looking for.

I want the other guy but in the process don't want to hurt my boyfriend. What do I do? I am going to loose it, the stress is killing me. Should I follow my head that is saying that I should stay with my boyfriend, or should I follow my heart that is wanting this other guy?

HELP PLEASE!!

A_2012 · Jul 22, 2012, 08:26 AM

I think you should follow your heart. No matter how nice your boyfriend is, if you are not truly happy in the relationship, they that's not fair to you or him. And a clue to whether you are happy or not is that you found some interest in someone else. Think of it this way, if you think of a perfect future, do you see yourself with him or do you see yourself with someone else. And an other good clue is to think : if he broke up with you today, how would you feel? If your first reaction to that thought is "good at least i dont have to hurt him" then there is your answer. Hope this helps.

Vicksie654 · Jul 22, 2012, 08:29 AM

Thank you, finally someone listens to me.. I can see a future with him but I am only 21 this year and was brought up in a very strict home I haven't experienced the world on the outside yet. Is it wrong to not ask him to wait but hope that one day we might be together?

Fr_Chuck · Jul 22, 2012, 08:48 AM

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence is a old story. You are bored and want new and exciting, after a few years it will happen to the new,

What have have you done to try and make it work with boyfriend?

But you break up with boyfriend and hope new guy works out, or you just move on

Vicksie654 · Jul 22, 2012, 08:50 AM

Well I have decide to stay on the correct path and not take either of them! The right one will come along-- HOPE

A_2012 · Jul 22, 2012, 08:58 AM

To be honest I was an only child and brought up in a strict way too so I know what you mean. The thing is you can't force him to wait, but if he really does love you he'll accept you as you are and respect your parents even if he doesn't agree with their strict ways. It's okay for him to be upset at certain situations and I'm sure you will be just as upset as him, but if he starts getting angry at you for the way your parents think then he isn't being fair to you because it puts you in a position between your family and him and he shouldn't make you choose.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 22, 2012, 09:00 AM

If you are unhappy in your present relationship, let it go, but don't do it because you have a itch for someone you don't really know. That is foolhardy.
Why don't you just be single for a while.

Vicksie654 · Jul 22, 2012, 10:22 AM

I have decided to take the path alone, thank you for all your advice, I don't know you guys but really your advice has helped me A lot! I have decided to be single for a while see what the future holds for me and see who is all out there for me! I am going to explore and enjoy myself before I commit myslef to a serious relationship.. Thank you once again

talaniman · Jul 22, 2012, 01:58 PM

Originally Posted by Vicksie654

I have decided to take the path alone, thank you for all your advice, I dont know you guys but really your advice has helped me ALOT! I have decided to be single for a while see what the future holds for me and see who is all out there for me!! I am going to explore and enjoy myself before I comit myslef to a serious relationship.. Thank you once again

I think you made a wise decision for yourself. Enjoy your freedom to explore, and experiment.

Vicksie654 · Aug 5, 2012, 11:58 AM

I have left my boyfriend because I have fallen in love with his best friend. Well the other night the best friend invited me over.. O my gosh warm feeling... felt so good still smiling but want to tear myself apart..

We sat on the coach and he kissed me and one thing lead to another and when I realised again we were doing it :( I am not that type of girl!!

He has a girlfriend now I don't hear from him and his so In love with his girl now! I feel like a whore should I phone him and tell him his a f@$@% jerk or what??

I can't stop thinking about him :( I really need advice please

Calecrotty · Aug 5, 2012, 12:04 PM

I've never really been in this situation before but yes you should let him no how much of an he is for doing that that's a move and he deserves to get an ear full for it

odinn7 · Aug 5, 2012, 12:12 PM

He used you and you let him do it. Maybe learn from this and respect yourself more... don't be jumping on the first guy to pay attention to you.

talaniman · Aug 5, 2012, 01:20 PM

Harshness Warning

Why are you mad at him for what you both did? What did you expect he was going to do after doing the deed? Maybe him, and your ex set you up.

What you think guys don't talk behind girls backs?? They were friends after all. You dumped your ex because he was boring, so look well before you leap next time.

"One thing led to another", and "before you knew it", are but OLD excuses for doing the wild thing. In truth you both got wild together.

So much for following your heart, or anything else other than your brain.

LadySam · Aug 5, 2012, 01:31 PM

Originally Posted by Vicksie654

I have left my boyfriend because I have fallen inlove with his best friend. Well the other night the best friend invited me over.. O my gosh warm feeling... felt so good still smiling but wanna tear myself apart..

We sat on the coach and he kissed me and one thing lead to another and when I realised again we were doing it :( I am not that type of girl !!!

He has a girlfriend now I dont hear from him and his so INLOVE with his girl now!! I feel like a whore should I phone him and tell him his a f@$@% jerk or what???

I can't stop thinking about him :( I really need advice please

What happened to being single for a while?
Basically you got what you asked for, and were used.
Yes he is a jerk, but if he had a girlfriend and carried on like that with you, then you should have known that.
To add to Fr Chucks saying.
The grass IS always greener on the other side of the fence, until it's time to do the yard work.
There is no reason to be angry and call anyone and tell them off, drop it and move on.

Homegirl 50 · Aug 5, 2012, 05:52 PM

You are not a child. One thing led to another because you let it.
You left your boyfriend for his best friend so don't get pissed at him cause he now has a girl friend. What you did wasn't much better.
Did you expect he would chose you after what you did to his friend?

monsieurjj · Aug 5, 2012, 06:31 PM

I feel so sorry for your ex, not so much for you, I guess it became boring because of communication problems but you falling in love so quickly is just a disrespect to what you and your ex had and let me guess you want your ex back?