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johannsson35 · Jul 19, 2012, 06:21 PM

First off, this is a hypothetical question. Anyway, I know making love is different from having sex. Sex is just sex with no true feelings of love between partners. Making love is having sex, but both partners feel strongly towards each other. I'm 18 by the way. Now, I was wondering. I'm a virgin, and say if the woman isn't. How do I make love to her without making a fool of myself, or being really bad? I want to make it satisfying for her. I've heard you're supposed to perform foreplay on her first, because a lot of women have trouble achieving orgasm. How long should it last? When should we stop?

Wondergirl · Jul 19, 2012, 06:36 PM

Begin with foreplay about 8-12 hours before the "event." With a woman, you make love first to her mind and her emotions.

johannsson35 · Jul 19, 2012, 06:40 PM

Thanks Wondergirl! So basically I just perform foreplay (kissing, touching, performing oral) through out the day?

Wondergirl · Jul 19, 2012, 06:44 PM

Absolutely not!

I said mentally and emotionally (not physically).

J_9 · Jul 19, 2012, 06:44 PM

Hypothetically you aren't considering doing this with the girl in this thread are you?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...-678197-2.html

johannsson35 · Jul 19, 2012, 06:57 PM

All right, got you. My bad.
And no, I'm not. I was just wondering. I'm not ready anyway. I'm simply asking.

Wondergirl · Jul 19, 2012, 07:19 PM

You don't even TOUCH her, or you have missed the point and need to educate yourself on how to appeal to a woman.

Zooster545 · Jul 26, 2012, 04:41 AM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You don't even TOUCH her, or you have missed the point and need to educate yourself on how to appeal to a woman.

I think you are kind of straying away from the actual question a little. Although it is a good point to make.
Don't have sex just to get laid. If you want to "make love" then it is about emotions and the connection between the people involved. If you want to "make love" then sex will have to wait until a legitimate connection is made and until that is established it will just be sex. This connection can take longer to form in different circumstances- at least a month I would say, but for younger individuals, virgins, etc I think I would wait a lot longer than that. It depends on what you are actually looking for and where you are planning on going with that relationship.
As for the act itself, it really depends on each person. Everyone has different taste and likes different things. Foreplay is pretty much always good though; helps to keep things more relaxed and you get more into "the mood". How long? I would just take your time, don't rush anything, and just go off how the person you are with is reacting. If they aren't a virgin and you are, tell them and they should take the lead a little, help out, make it easier, etc (even if it's their first time too actually). If they do anything besides that, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them. Foreplay is usually right before sex also; not always but at the stage you are pretty much always. Make sure to use protection, proper lubrication, etc too.-> good things to keep in mind
And as it was already said essentially don't let the sex be the main thing on your mind. Romance her and ACTUALLY care about her. From your comments/ question I don't think you are ready for anything yet but knowledge can't hurt.