Originally Posted by
Wondergirl
You don't even TOUCH her, or you have missed the point and need to educate yourself on how to appeal to a woman.
I think you are kind of straying away from the actual question a little. Although it is a good point to make.
Don't have sex just to get laid. If you want to "make love" then it is about emotions and the connection between the people involved. If you want to "make love" then sex will have to wait until a legitimate connection is made and until that is established it will just be sex. This connection can take longer to form in different circumstances- at least a month I would say, but for younger individuals, virgins, etc I think I would wait a lot longer than that. It depends on what you are actually looking for and where you are planning on going with that relationship.
As for the act itself, it really depends on each person. Everyone has different taste and likes different things. Foreplay is pretty much always good though; helps to keep things more relaxed and you get more into "the mood". How long? I would just take your time, don't rush anything, and just go off how the person you are with is reacting. If they aren't a virgin and you are, tell them and they should take the lead a little, help out, make it easier, etc (even if it's their first time too actually). If they do anything besides that, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them. Foreplay is usually right before sex also; not always but at the stage you are pretty much always. Make sure to use protection, proper lubrication, etc too.-> good things to keep in mind
And as it was already said essentially don't let the sex be the main thing on your mind. Romance her and ACTUALLY care about her. From your comments/ question I don't think you are ready for anything yet but knowledge can't hurt.