[Yellowball]

I am just wondering for myself because I have been with only one guy in the past relationship. Basically my new boyfriend (whom I have known for years and he was in love with me for 5 years) is kind of cheap in my opinion. For instance we have been to couple of dates and he hasn't taken me out anywhere. We just walk around. We went in to Starbucks and he expected me to pay for my own coffee. But yet when we were in the store and I had trouble with my credit card he offered me to use his card. Also at the end he told me that he could contribute to the half of the bill that I spent because I got something for both of us. I also got him an expensive cologne because he did well on his exam in school. When he went away for a trip he brought me a small pen souvenir. I am not a gold digger and do not expect anything I work and have my own money. I just want to know what to expect from him. And I just want to know if he is cheap or we aren't close enough. We have been going for a little over a month. My previous boyfriend of two years used to buy me gifts and pay for everything. So I am a little confused on what's going on with this one. Also he is 6 years older than me and makes much more money than me.

[joypulv]

I don't know how we can be expected to know more than you do. And it's not the sort of question you ask him, obviously. So you are left waiting, and if if continues and you don't like it, you break up with him.
Maybe he's saving for a down payment on a house, or paying his grandmother's medical bills, or he has huge student loans, or his last girlfriend took him for a ride, or he's paying alimony or child support. The possibilities are endless.
It's a modern world. And the idea that a man asks a woman out, pays for everything, all with the hope of sex, marriage, children, and home cooked meals is gone. You say you are self sufficient and working. Why not suggest dinner at a nice restaurant, Dutch treat, and see what happens? Why act so passive about what you do on a date? Aren't you half the relationship?