[1403helen]

Is it meant to be they meet at a hockey camp her separated and unhappy my x stated had a lot of problems and talked to me about them it meant he opened up about his problems fights with two teenage sons one stealing and trouble at school the other diabetic head boy letting his steam off at home as he put it bored with his relationship withhis wife and sexually lack of interest final stages renovating the family home nit picking each other wife working weekend shifts to get enough money to pay for renovations so husband doesn't have to work to hard. The new friendship blossoms they meet for coffee at the beach for a swim they both really like swimming they both want an escape they work in the same suburb at either end of a long street and can meet for lunch and coffee they both like live music and follow the bands a far cry from there home situation her with 3kids 12 15 and 19 and he with 2 boys 14 and 18. So she eventually leaves her husband he left me and the boys 6 months ago and little contact with the boys and his whole personality changed he stated he didn't love me any more hadn't for some time so that's that after 23years no COUNSELLING no choices for me left to cope with boys alone and lost the man I loved coincidence for them and the push for me to open the door to new beginnings or lose the love of my life I miss the old times before he changed he was a good husband and good man but now too far away and distant from us all.

[Homegirl 50]

I'm sorry this has happened to you but what is your question?
If you have the opportunity to move forward, do it. He has basically abandoned you. Get a lawyer. Make sure he takes care of his responsibility to you and your kids.
I wish you well.