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    Wondergirl Posts: 39,354, Reputation: 5431
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    #101

    Jun 23, 2012, 01:18 PM
    "He" is not part of this equation any longer. He doesn't want the baby and has already hit you, opening the door wide to hit you again and again. Tell your mom that he hit you. You owe her that tidbit of information.
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    #102

    Jun 23, 2012, 01:22 PM
    She will tell my dad that will make him more mad at me for not telling him to start with
    If I do tell her about it that why I did not say anything today to her and dad when I told them about the baby as I did not want my boyfriend to get into anything about it
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    #103

    Jun 23, 2012, 01:37 PM
    WG, you're talking to a brick wall - and, of course, it's pretty obvious that I believe none of this, that this in the category of being strung along.

    I hope I'm wrong - spidey senses. This is just not playing out for me -

    For example - she was underage. She's pregnant. She's now 16. I can't believe HER parents didn't get the news and immediately call HIS parents (using loud voices).
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    #104

    Jun 23, 2012, 01:38 PM
    Do you think they would not have noticed you were pregnant at some point? Have you seen a prenant woman in her last trimester? A blind person would notice it.

    You won't have a good life with him.. how could you, he doesn't even have a full time job to support himself much less you AND the baby... Babies are expensive... Wives are expensive... living a decent much less a GOOD life is expensive... That takes not just a full time job... but a very good full time job, the kind of thing he's not capable of right now... or maybe ever.

    But like we have to eventually say to people who just will NOT listen.

    Don't come back and whine later... because WE TOLD YOU SO... and you didn't listen.

    And girls in your current situation, that don't listen to others... ALWAYS regret the choices they make than the years they've lost before they come to their senses... by then all the good men are married... or married and divorced and have kids of their own, alimoney, child support... etc, etc... etc. And its too late for the life you want because you missed the chance when you had it.
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    #105

    Jun 23, 2012, 01:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    WG, you're talking to a brick wall
    You noticed that too? But she loves him.
    of course, it's pretty obvious that I believe none of this, that this in the category of being strung along.

    I hope I'm wrong - spidey senses. This is just not playing out for me -
    It's a hot summer day and the cats are asleep, the crossword puzzle is finished, and the chicken salad for a light supper has been made. Her "broken record" is the tip-off, isn't it.
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    #106

    Jun 23, 2012, 01:50 PM
    Hi.. what you could do is tell your boyfriend first..

    Once you and your boyfriend have decided you are well prepared for this baby, then its time for the parents. You and your boyfriend should go together and sit down with your parents.. and tell them that way. Make sure they know that you and your boyfriend are prepared and will support each other all the way.
    Apart from having sex, your parents will worry about whether your boyfriend will support you and will not just run away! Once they know that he is there for you, it won't be so bad for them

    So it's time to find out what your boyfriend wants...
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    #107

    Jun 23, 2012, 01:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ipodtouch View Post
    Hi.. what you could do is tell your boyfriend first..

    Once you and your boyfriend have decided you are well prepared for this baby, then its time for the parents. You and your boyfriend should go together and sit down with your parents.. and tell them that way. Make sure they know that you and your boyfriend are prepared and will support each other all the way.
    Apart from having sex, your parents will worry about whether your bf will support you and will not just run away! Once they know that he is there for you, it won't be so bad for them

    So it's time to find out what your boyfriend wants...
    Did you read the entire thread? The boyfriend has already physically abused her and doesn't want her to tell her parents until he has "thought about this for a few weeks." You are talking about a normal, rational couple expecting a baby. This is not the case in this thread.
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    #108

    Jun 23, 2012, 02:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Did you read the entire thread? The boyfriend has already physically abused her and doesn't want her to tell her parents until he has "thought about this for a few weeks." You are talking about a normal, rational couple expecting a baby. This is not the case in this thread.

    All right calm down.. No I did not read the entire thread.. only the question...

    Please ignore my comment
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    #109

    Jun 23, 2012, 03:01 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ipodtouch View Post
    Alright calm down .. No I did not read the entire thread.. only the question...

    Please ignore my comment

    You couldn't be any more disrespectful it you tried. Calm down?

    I realize you are relatively new here so everyone will probably cut you some slack for a brief period.
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    #110

    Jun 23, 2012, 03:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ipodtouch View Post
    Hi.. what you could do is tell your boyfriend first..

    Once you and your boyfriend have decided you are well prepared for this baby, then its time for the parents. You and your boyfriend should go together and sit down with your parents.. and tell them that way. Make sure they know that you and your boyfriend are prepared and will support each other all the way.
    Apart from having sex, your parents will worry about whether your bf will support you and will not just run away! Once they know that he is there for you, it won't be so bad for them

    So it's time to find out what your boyfriend wants...


    Think how much time we could all save if we didn't bother reading the thread.

    You do realize that this was legal rape, that he abuses her, that he works part time?
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    #111

    Jun 23, 2012, 04:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    You noticed that too? But she loves him.

    It's a hot summer day and the cats are asleep, the crossword puzzle is finished, and the chicken salad for a light supper has been made. Her "broken record" is the tip-off, isn't it.

    Yes, I predict this will go on and on.

    Chicken salad? I settled for bbq ribs on the deck. It was more about the deck and less about bbq. MY dogs have been awake all day long. They will S-L-E-E-E-E-E-E-P well tonight. One of us is going to "try out" doggie half-day day care on Wednesday.

    What was I talking about? Right, if this is for real I get that she loves him. Maybe he's the only male in Town in that particular age bracket. I just can't believe her parents haven't called his parents - screaming - and OP is so calm. Oh, well.
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    #112

    Jun 23, 2012, 04:43 PM
    She enjoys getting beaten, some people are into that you know.
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    #113

    Jun 23, 2012, 06:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    She enjoys getting beaten, some people are into that you know.

    Well, and if a beater meets a beatee it works out very well.
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    #114

    Jun 23, 2012, 07:15 PM
    We could chip in and buy them whips and chains for a wedding present. Maybe some leather gear... unless latex is their thing.

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