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Chrissy1888 · Jun 18, 2012, 06:40 AM

I have been seeing my girlfriend for just under 2 years, I am 19 and she is 21. At the start of our relationship we had a lot of oral sex (About 5 times a week) we had a lot of sexual flirting texts. She played with herself most mornings as did I but after about a half a year she lost her sex drive. Although we did everything but have sex we now did nothing. I love her and she loves me, that's the reason 2 years down the line I'm still with her, I believe we will last forever but don't understand why all of a sudden she loses any interest in sex.

Any ideas guys?

Chrissy1888 · Jun 18, 2012, 06:50 AM

She imagines our future and has said she can't help not wanting sex, she wish should could help it, can a girl
Possibly not want sex at all?

She doesn't even want to give me handjob, and any time I bring the subject up she gets annoyed.

Chrissy1888 · Jun 18, 2012, 07:01 AM

How can you assume she doesn't want sex with me, she doesn't fantasise over anyone else, and she has said she loves me.

Chrissy1888 · Jun 18, 2012, 07:09 AM

But why has she totally lost her limbido does she not find me sexually attractive, it seems that she does not want sex with anyone

Cat1864 · Jun 18, 2012, 10:03 AM

There can be several reasons for anyone to lose interest in sex. It can be medical, stress, pressure (from others or self), exhaustion, etc.

Has she had a check up to determine if she has any medical conditions? Is she on any medications or hormonal birth control? Loss of libido can be a common side-effect of medications and/or their interactions with other drugs or even foods/drinks.

Stress from work, school, family, friends, etc. is another major libido limiter.

Feeling pressured to have sex or do sexual acts can cause a person to shut down. Sometimes couples will get into a rut and stop doing the things that keep a relationship healthy. Do you both show affection or share intimacy that isn't expected to lead to sexual acts? Do you date and have fun with no expectations? Do you spend time apart with friends or interests (other than work or school) so that you aren't relying on just each other for support and entertainment?

In many cases issues in the bedroom are symptoms of problems in other areas of the relationship or even outside the relationship. How well are you communicating with each other? How is the 'big picture'?