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    ovi Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 27, 2007, 08:30 PM
    I need space
    Dear friends, so today I ran into the girl that told me she needs space while driving, I tried to wave and she did not look so I assumed that she was ignoring me . So I texted here saying "wow i can't believe that u ignored me. i just can't understand how come people like u and then hate u for no reason. i never thought u will be that kind of a person. peace" so she texed me saying" u need to chill out, i just parked at the liquor store n was talking to my sister , comments like this only makes me upset, i did nt c u , so u blew up at me for no reason" is she some how telling me that she still care, and I am screwing things up by my reactions
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    Feb 27, 2007, 08:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ovi
    dear friends, so today i ran into the girl that told me she needs space while driving, i tried to wave and she did not look so i assumed that she was ignoring me . so i texted here saying "wow i can't believe that u ignored me. i just can't understand how come people like u and then hate u for no reason. i never thought u will be that kind of a person. peace" so she texed me saying" u need to chill out, i just parked at the liquor store n was talking to my sister , comments like this only makes me upset, i did nt c u , so u blew up at me for no reason" is she some how telling me that she still care, and iam screwing things up by my reactions
    I think that maybe she might think your crazy, I only say this because I've done what you did before and I know how that person feels she most likely wasn't doing anything wrong but you might just be overreacting just give it some time she'll come around why don't u try ignoring her!
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    Feb 27, 2007, 08:59 PM
    Thanks missgomez13, I know I sound like a crazy desprt man but this is all new to me. I normally don't have many problems when it comes to relationships I ve been with one girl since I was 18 n we dated for 7 years so I've been single for almost a year a half and I thought I finally meet a great person so I am frking out but I am going to ignore it and c what's going to happen but I don't c here coming back ! So I just need to move on
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    Feb 27, 2007, 09:15 PM
    Maybe she saw you, maybe she didn't. In any case, you did go just a tad over board. Next time don't come off accusing. You could have just as easily texted her saying "I saw u by the liquor store and waved but I guess you didn't see me, too bad for me, hope things are good." Short and sweet. No follow ups, phone calls or anything else. Stay away from the places you know she frequents. Keep busy, busy, busy. Positive attitude. Happy guy. She will soon wonder why she asked for the space.
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    Feb 27, 2007, 09:37 PM
    No she isn't telling you that she still cares.

    What she is telling you is that she didn't see you and you over reacted by sending her that text.

    Whether she saw you or not doesn't matter. Don't worry about her and listen to what mom says above. It is spot on!

    P.S. We all need space while driving! It is dangerous on the roads at times! LOL! (Only joking. It is just how I read your first sentence)
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    Feb 27, 2007, 10:13 PM
    I know skell your right I am just disapointed at myself never would imagine being here! It hasn't been that long we only knew each other for only 4 weeks. I am getting better I don't think about here that much! She was just extremely sweet she use to text me that she miss me all the time and then all of this happened! I guess I am still learning!
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    Feb 27, 2007, 10:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ovi
    thanx missgomez13, i know i sound like a crazy desprt man but this is all new to me. i normally dont have many problems when it comes to relationships i ve been with one girl since i was 18 n we dated for 7 years so ive been single for almost a year a half and i thought i finally meet a great person so i am frking out but i am gona ignore it and c whats gona happen but i dont c here comming back ! so i just need to move on
    Oh I see that's a whole different outlook on it now I can see why it would bother you so much I recently let go of a very important person in my life, I was with for 4 years not nearly as long as you but the pain hurts I understand sometimes the best thing to do is to move on that means she was not the one you were meant to be with. REMEMBER things happen for a reason.

    Take care:o
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    Feb 27, 2007, 10:37 PM
    u know missgomez that's why I just hate relationships, somehow its better to be alone than having to worry about others and forget about yourself! I just don't know life seems fun when u meet someone u like and I consider myself a descnt guy ! But when people treat u that way it almost bring my selfestem very low and that's were I need to chang and learn how to value myself better! Cz I honstly in realty I am better than that
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    Feb 28, 2007, 09:01 AM
    If that's exactly how the exchange went down via text, I'm sort of curious as to why she has a great idea of where she didn't see you and what she was doing precisely when she wasn't seeing you. Either way, in delicate situations like that being overly aggressive and accusatory doesn't help anything. What you got to get in your head is that when people break away from you they're doing it for their own reasons. You got to realize she doesn't care about what you're feeling enough to let you know right now. On some level she probobly still does, but for the time being, her needs and wants are going to win every time. Right now her need and want is to be away from you, make that happen.

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