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shrewd26f · Feb 26, 2007, 05:29 PM

hello!
When we were starting in our relationship, like in the first 8 months or so, we've been kissing and smooching a lot. . But now that we're two years steady already. I always have to ask for it. He doesn't like kissing me. I love kissing a lot (Not to lead to sexual intercourse) but JUST kissing. I feel passionate with kissing and I think that's the best expression of love for me. But, my boyfriend doesn't like kissing long. He only does smack. I brought this up to him and he said, it doesn't mean he stopped loving me. He said that, it's just that he doesn't like kissing. Should I believe him? Im getting paranoid he's kissing other girl or cheating on me. FYI, Im hygienic and of course I always make sure I smell good all the time. Is it really normal for guys to dislike kissing?

chuff · Feb 26, 2007, 06:53 PM

I wouldn't say it's normal for guys to like kissing but probably not as much as girls. The fact that he did initially but not anymore is kind of strange. But that being said it might depend where your doing it. If your in the middle of the mall it's not appropriate and comes off like you have insecurties. If your doing it as you leave then there might be something there. That being said maybe the "honeymoon" period is wearing off so he doesn't feel the need to express himself so much via kissing.

cgracilis · Feb 27, 2007, 12:56 AM

I felt the same way during the first few months of my relationship with my girlfriend. I slowly lost that spark and didn't kiss her that much. She would also ask for it from time to time and sometimes id make excuses. Im breaking up with her in the next few days.. just making sure I really want it. Im not saying your boyfriend isn't in love with you anymore, just sharing my experience. I do hope you both don't end up like me. Good luck.

Nohitter410 · Feb 27, 2007, 07:59 AM

I mean just try not to kiss him all the time even though you love it. Some guys only want to kiss if it leads to something more. Maybe try to make it more passionate by kissing him all over and doing more foreplay or something. I know I am trying to help, I mean some guys and that is the majority just don't enjoy kissing for a long period unless they know it will lead to something more.

THe key is to just not every time you see him to kiss him and want to kiss him for so long. Just like you aren't in the mood to have sex all the time, he may just not be in the mood to kiss all the time. It probably has nothing to do with you just the reality that many men can relate to.

t_rod95 · Mar 1, 2007, 07:12 PM

It might be that he's cheating on you, and no it's not strange for guys to dislike kissing

Skell · Mar 1, 2007, 08:32 PM

Originally Posted by t_rod95

It might be that he's cheating on you, and no it's not strange for guys to dislike kissing

Don't listen to this please. You have no evidence at all to suggest he is cheating on you.

The advice from the other posters is quite good though!

shrewd26f · Mar 2, 2007, 10:59 AM

Originally Posted by Skell

Dont listen to this please. You have no evidence at all to suggest he is cheating on you.

The advice from the other posters is quite good though!

Thanks, Skell! :)

Geoffersonairplane · Mar 2, 2007, 11:08 AM

The fact that he no longer kisses you that much is no indication that he is cheating. Some men don't like public displays of affection. Personally, I love kissing but not really in public because I like to share that kind of thing in private. It is a good expression of love but because he does not do it that much is not an indication that he does not love or feel attracted to you. Bear in mind that often, once the honeymoon phase is burned out, the intimacy level cools down slightly. You can keep it alive and introduce variety in the intimacy side of your relationship. Remember also as I am sure you know that intimacy in physical terms is only one part of a relationship. Good communication is important too. That goes for him too in that compromises need to be made to fulfill each persons wants and needs.

kp2171 · Mar 2, 2007, 11:10 AM

I love kissing. My wife doesn't so much. We kissed more when dating. Not that she doesn't kiss, but she's not a "makeout" person, and I absolutely love a long kissing session. Just how she's wired.

It may be absolutely nothing other than you two having different preferences.

Geoffersonairplane · Mar 2, 2007, 11:13 AM

I once kissed someone for over an hour non stop (almost) and my jaws ached for a day.. LOL but then I doubt that is a world record.:D

Sorry, not trying to sound like some kind of stud because I am not but just reflecting on some funny moments in my life.

Actually I think it was the avoidance of having to talk to her because I was a bit shy.. LOL

Or it could be that I was scared if I banged on too much, she would leave... LOL

shrewd26f · Mar 2, 2007, 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane

The fact that he no longer kisses you that much is no indication that he is cheating. Some men don't like public displays of affection. Personally, I love kissing but not really in public because I like to share that kind of thing in private. It is a good expression of love but because he does not do it that much is not an indication that he does not love or feel attracted to you. Bear in mind that often, once the honeymoon phase is burned out, the intimacy level cools down slightly. You can keep it alive and introduce variety in the intimacy side of your relationship. Remember also as I am sure you know that intimacy in physical terms is only one part of a relationship. Good communication is important too. That goes for him too in that compromises need to be made to fulfill each persons wants and needs.

Wow, thanks for that wonderful advice. So real and sincere :)

But guess what, I just broke up with him.. .

alizeblu · Mar 2, 2007, 11:43 AM

I agree with shrewd. I love kissing my baby girl, but I won't kiss her like that in public. I just like to keep that between us, in private. Because it leads to other things, (like intercoarse) so I will only kiss her when we are like chillin together in her room or something. Kissing leads to other things, get used to it, it's the 1st move leading to love making. So maybe he just doesn't want that to happen, so he only kisses you when the time is right.

chuff · Mar 2, 2007, 11:53 AM

Originally Posted by shrewd26f

Wow, thanks for that wonderful advice. So real and sincere :)

But guess what, I just broke up with him. . .

I like kissing.

Geoffersonairplane · Mar 2, 2007, 12:20 PM

Originally Posted by shrewd26f

Wow, thanks for that wonderful advice. So real and sincere :)

But guess what, I just broke up with him. . .

May I ask why you broke up with him if that's not too nosey? Was it in relation to what you have posted here?

shrewd26f · Mar 2, 2007, 12:27 PM

Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane

May I ask why you broke up with him if thats not too nosey? Was it in relation to what you have posted here?

Not really. We had a miscommunication until we had a big fight. He called me name and I hate that. It's like this, he called me this afternoon and he was complaining about his dad. Oh, long story. I guess I'll tell the whole story in private message.