[triangular]

Hello,

Ok so this girl is the sister of my best friend. She and I have always known each other and got on. Several years ago I realised I had feelings for this girl. My best pal even suggested that I ask her out a couple of years ago but I didn't think she was into me and gave it a miss, even though there had been a few occasions of flirting/almost-getting-it-on. I started seeing this other girl for a while but ended it after about 6 months because of my feeling for the original girl, especially after hearing she thought I was hot too.
So, last year I plucked up the courage and asked her out. We went out a couple of times and had fun. Finally we kissed. It was magic. The next day she tells me she's still seeing some guy (and had been for some time). I was naturally a bit heart broken and, rather depressingly, resigned myself to just being 'the friend of her bro'.
Over the last year I tried to reconcile my feelings and convince myself that she was happy with her fella and that I should try and be happy too.
But then last week we went out for a mutual friend's birthday. There were drinks and dancing and somehow we ended up kissing and finally admitting how we both felt. I was elated; she was telling me the same thoughts I have about her!
But she's still with this dude.

I don't think she is just stringing me along; I genuinely think she has feelings for me too. But what do I do? I am pretty confused right now.

I don't want to be a 'home-wrecker' and her boyfriend is the large, muscular boxing type... but... I still feel the same way about her regardless.

Sorry for going on so long and thanks for reading, any advice would be appreciated.

[Ruthmoon]

If she is kissing you while she's still with her man u don't want her because she will do the same thing to u she might break it off with him to be with u but she wouldn't be trustworthy because obviously she doesn't have boundaries and is selfish you don't kiss a guy when yet with another guy that's just wrong just because she can't decide if she wants to break up with her boyfriend to be with u doesn't mean u should be sitting around waiti g for a girl who is messing around with u behind the scene there are many beautiful amazing girls out there waiting for there prince charming

[JudyKayTee]

If she is kissing you while she's still with her man u don't want her because she will do the same thing to u she might break it off with him to be with u but she wouldn't be trustworthy because obviously she doesn't have boundaries and is selfish you don't kiss a guy when yet with another guy that's just wrong just because she can't decide if she wants to break up with her boyfriend to be with u doesn't mean u should be sitting around waiti g for a girl who is messing around with u behind the scene there are many beautiful amazing girls out there waiting for there prince charming

This is impossible to read. Please use punctuation.

To the OP - she's playing both you and the other guy.

[odinn7]

To the OP - she's playing both you and the other guy.

I agree but I'm also going one step further... She told you all her feelings for you while you guys were out drinking... I wouldn't put too much faith in that. Maybe she cares for you a little but taking fact out of someone's drunken talk... well, you know how that goes.

[rocketman11]

She will never change until she grows up mentally. She is cheating on her guy with you. If you two get together she will inevitably cheat on you.

Remember a leopard never changes its spots...

Do not give into her, and find someone better. Trust me there will be someone better for you.

Good luck!