[Enami]

In my relationship sometimes I feel that the person I'm with cares about that more then the love itself. I never truly gave sex an important stamp on love with another, only emotions and time well spent. Sometimes when I'm with the person I am with now I feel that since sex is becoming an issue our relationship itself will suffer too.

[talaniman]

I would agree if you clearly need other things a lot more than just sex. These are the things we judge compatibility by, and its important to share these feelings and concerns with your partner, to get things in the open, and agreements and boundaries can be reached. If they can.

Yes a relationship can be ruined when both partners are not on the same page, not just about sex, but other areas as well.

[tickle]

Wrong terminology, sex. In a compatible monogamous relationship 'intimacy' enhances a relationship. Is is a way of finding out just how together you both are. If the 'intimacy' doesn't work, feeling comfortable in your own skins together (and I do mean that literally) then forget it, nothing else will balance it out.

[Enami]

My girlfriend and I are making a year she says she loves me and she’s attracted to me, but when it comes to sex I know she wants more, and sometimes she can’t get into it. I am the first woman she has ever been with. She says it is okay she enjoys pleasing me, I don’t have to worry about her she will be fine, but I want to please her too. She is used to having intercourse with men, and I know this is different for her, at times I feel this issue is what going to end our relationship. We do love each other but sex is becoming an issue between us. I don’t want our relationship to end over this, especially when we are doing fine in all other aspects. Any help/Suggestions

[Fr_Chuck]

If she was really a straight women, then it would be interfering, since a straight women would not have any desire to have sex with another women.

She may be bi, but she is not straight if she is having sex with you.

[Enami]

Yes but in my boat for a woman who dealt with only men all her life, and had only relationships with men it is hard. She is not attractive to women at all only men, and she openly admits this. I'm the only woman she has look at in this way. I'm the exception. It is hard because I do love her but sexually I lose her.

[Fr_Chuck]

Then the relationship will end at some point since she is not happy.

[talaniman]

When merging your post, it seemed like it was your partner seeking more, but now it appears that this is an assumption on your part. I think this is where the honest communications to air these concerns and issues must take place as you seem insecure after a year that she will either return to men as partners, or leave for a more satisfying female.

Truth be told, no couple can predict if they grow apart, or grow even closer together. Its an ongoing process of adjustments. Is there a reason you cannot give her more or is it a choice not to??