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How to get my boyfriend to stop going out drinking, or start involving me in his life
I'm 19, my boyfriend is 22, and he is always going out and drinking.
He didn't originally do this when we started going out, but has started to now. I have caught him, on two occasions lying about going out. And I think he still does. He would cancel plans with me, saying he is sick or something, and then go out clubbing with his friends. I understand that he needs his own time, but he will go out, and get drunk with all of his single friends (which are sleazes and don't like me, and have tried to get him to cheat on me before), like 3 or 4 times a week. He doesn't get home until 5am most times and gets completely drunk! Once I even caught he leaving a bar with his mate and two other girls, when he was completely drunk, on their way to a club! On top of this he ignores me, won't return my calls or texts when he goes out and it hurts me so much. I have tried approaching this in every way. Nothing gets through to him. I've tried talking to him about my feelings, I've tried being logical and explaining how not going out will benefit him, I've tried being straight forward and he doesn't care. I've tried doing my own thing, and seeing how he feels when I do it to him, but still he doesn't care. Id be more than happy to go out with him, but he doesn't want me out. He never wants me to go out with him and his friends. I hate it. What do I do! How do I stop him going out, ignoring me, and not wanting me around? This is started to make me stress our and worry all the time, could he be cheating on me? Is that why he ignores me when he goes out. Help :( |
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You'll never stop him, he doesn't seem like he wants to be controlled. The only thing you can do is leave. It seems drastic but in a case such as this communication can always trump walking out, however, seeing as you've already tried, and he's already lied, the only thing you can do is get the heck out of there before you waste anymore time on him. You can do so much better than that, trust me, we all can.
Best of luck! |
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