[Pu22u0li89]

My ex boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago. Then after a certain amount of separation we decided to be friends. Now its been almost 3 months. We talked last night and I told him that I was crazy about him. He said that he had feelings for me too, and that he wanted to get closer again and take things slow, which is awesome. But then he said that he didn't want to date me again? Like in a relationship? I understand that we're leaving for college in 6 months, but I really want him all to myself. (because there's this other girl that likes him, and he's trying to decide if he likes her) if I wait a few weeks and he still doesn't want that, I'll just do no contact and move on. He's just worried about getting into to somethingn too serious, or too stressful since we're leaving, but I know that wouldn't happen. Can I prove that to him?
But as of right now, is there any way to almost manipulate him into going out with me? Like I said, I'm not stupid, I won't just wait forever if he truly doesn't want that. But I know that it wouldn't be stressful, and I really want us to give it a shot. We truly care about each other and its not enough to just be friends. He was an amazing boyfriend, and I want that back :( how, over the next few weeks, can I get him to think it's a good idea? (without being blunt because we agreed to just be chill over the next few weeks and "see what happens")

[kp2171]

He doesn't want to date. If you force the issue you aren't going to get what you want.

There's another girl he might want to date? Fine. There are going to be a lot of new people around him, and really, I think its silly to get too hung up on one person this young. I did it. I got burned. Most do. But if he is curious about other people, as he should be, you are going to spend a lot of time and energy fighting something which is natural and healthy.

So id not drive myself crazy trying to keep him. He knows you. He knows what you're about. It isn't easy, but probably better for him to not date you, to see other people, and then if he returns to you... then you know its strong. And in the meantime, you don't wait around for him either.

Be friends first. That's the foundation of a lasting relationship anyway.

[talaniman]

Sorry, there are no magic potions or tricks to make someone be with you. It would be far better to relax and back off and let things flow. You might want him back but if he doesn't want to, accept it and move ahead with your life. It takes two to have a relationship.