[Lala_Stefani]

I want to be adopted but I'm scared because I don't know how my mother would feel if I told her that... but I just can't stand the things we go through... and its killing me inside... I cry all the time and I feel its getting to the point that its unsafe for my health... because now I have bad head aches... Im 15 years old and shouldn't be this sad and unhappy... what should I do?

[Wondergirl]

So what's going on that distresses you so much?

[Lala_Stefani]

We've been kicked out of 4 houses so far this past year... and now we are staying with my other grandma for now and I don't know if that will last long... plus my mom has 5 kids... girls to be exact... my mom has no job so things we need we beg people for like clothes or shoes... sometimes my granny buys us what she can and that's not often... none of our family likes my mom or her kids.. so there's no support there... My father could care less about me... so there's no support there... then when my mom gets mad she says she doesn't want me and my sisters anymore and all kind of hurtful things... but she says she only says it because she's tired of worrying about where her kids are going to lay their head at night... and it all stresses me out

[Wondergirl]

we've been kicked out of 4 houses so far this past year

Why?

my mom has no job

Why not?

none of our family likes my mom or her kids

Why not?

so there's no support there

What about public aid and section 8 housing?

My father could care less about me

Where is he? Why isn't the court making him pay support?

[Lala_Stefani]

My mom has been looking but no one has called her back.. plus we don't have a car so no transportation if she did have a job... um.. im clueless on why our whole family does not like us... we've never did anything to them but help them... they just don't want to help us they rather see us doing bad... they said they hope we'd end up homeless... so yea they really don't like us... my mom got kicked off section 8 a year or two ago because of one of our land lords... my father is supposed to pay child support but he doesn't pay it.. and he just doesn't care about paying it.. and he lives in east st.louis,Illinois... while we live in st.louis,Missouri...

[Wondergirl]

How old are you? You do realize a lot of this makes no sense. I'm wondering if you really understand the problems and solutions. Your mom needs to find and get help from a social worker.

Why did the landlord kick her off section 8?

If your father doesn't pay, your mom goes to court to get him to pay.

[Lala_Stefani]

I'm 15.. and how does it not make sense...

[Wondergirl]

Why did the landlord kick her off section 8?

If your father doesn't pay, your mom goes to court to get him to pay. I'm in Illinois. If a deadbeat day doesn't pay support, he loses his driver's license and maybe even goes to jail.

[Lala_Stefani]

Our landlord didn't kick us off section 8... it was because of our landlord that she got kicked off section 8.. I forgot why...

The situation with my father... umm... my mom has been asking them what are they going to do about him not paying and I don't know what their response has been.. but this has been going on for a long time now so I don't know that situation

[Wondergirl]

Section 8 is a federal housing program. Landlords can't get you kicked off. Or if they try, they'd better have a good reason like prostitution or drug traffic/sales in the apartment.

Your mom needs to go after your dad for support, especially is there are five kids. Good grief!

[Lala_Stefani]

I rememeber my mom saying something about some paperwork she gave the landlord to turn in and she didn't turn it in... something like that... My mom only has 3 by him and my other 2 sisters share a dad and their dad pays his child support.

[Wondergirl]

Not turning in paperwork shouldn't get your mom kicked out. Something is wrong about that.

Does your mom have a social worker to help her? If not, why not?

[Lala_Stefani]

I really don't know too much about that situation... well I think she just started talking to a social worker because she mentions her sometimes...

[Wondergirl]

Well, if she isn't, she should. It will fix the housing problem and the money problem and give her an opportunity to unload her concerns on that person or a counselor that the social worker recommends. Most of what your family is up against is fixable.

[Lala_Stefani]

OK.. thanks for your help and advice

[Wondergirl]

I'm a counselor and have worked as a sort of social worker.

Let me know what happens. Okay?

[Lala_Stefani]

Okay