[houston_chick]

Im not happy with my other half and its driving me nuts I don't know what to do? Trust me I've tried everything I think that we bring out the worst in each other I'm just scared of making that next step in going our separate ways:(

[valinors_sorrow]

I hear you trying on your own and while that is admirable, marriage problems, actually all relationship problems don't usually solve quite so one-sided. It makes me wonder where is he is in this? He certainly can't be so happy if he is married to someone who is unhappy. Maybe the next step needs to be less of a step.

What about seeking the help of a marriage counselor? A professional can often bring almost immediate relief and help orchestrate a temporary separation, if necessary. They can help you both explore what is possible and then engage in rebuilding or ending it more constructively than you might have on your own. I think it becomes easier to face ending a marriage having tried every concievable course of action to solve what went wrong. I recommend this primarily because marriage counseling saved us from giving up at one time and helped us to improve as people.