[pbc12]

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. I moved out of my apartment to move in with her. She has a special needs child and I have done everything I can to be an excellent parent for him. She has been alone for 7 years now and he has never had a father figure around. But we got along pretty good, had our ups and downs of course. She gained some weight and wanted to start working out with her girlfriend who suddenly became single and required a lot of her time. Also started doing girls night out. I felt a little alone all the time waiting for her to come home late at night till 900 pm at times. They would take sometimes up to 3 hours with only 1 hour workout and the gym being only 5 min away. Well of course we had our arguments, and I threw fits about it. We both have myspaces, I had broke it off and claimed single on mine to get a reaction out of her and of course it didn't work. Her friend was keeping a close eye on my account and kept her informed of everything I was doing. So I wanted to talk to her about it, but she changed her account to single as well claiming she was following suit and just wanted me to move out and have space. I don't know exactly where and how fast this all came about, but for the longest time before all this she stopped calling me and stopped answering all of my calls as well. She claims that I had a lot of alt. I spent so much time and effort trying to do things that we could have fun doing together. I am not sure where this all went. So this weekend she went back home for her mothers B-day, but before leaving we had a good talk among one other thing, and then talked for the 2 hour drive she had and even made plans for a Florida trip in April. But I think she still wants me out. I am soooo confused and have read a lot of the blogs on here. I need some feedback on my situation... Please help me stop the confusion.

[chow mein]

U really like her, move out, and start things again

Say that you want to her to be happy and to make her happy u'll move out for her, but you still want to be involved in her life and her child's and say that u'll always feel the same about her and u'll want to start things up again if she feels the same way when she's ready to. Say your sorry and if she gives you another chance you won't screw it up.

This thing about her going out at nights, and not coming back till late. She's allowed to be wth her friends, can you see it from her point of view? She's had a special-needs child, and had to bring the kid up all by her self. She wouldn't have got that time to herself to just simply have fun. She needs the time now to blow off some steam, and she needs to spend time with her friend now that she's single - that's what friends are for. But if she's going out on a regular basis, fair enough you have a right to be upset, but if its only every so often, then just let her enjoy it.

[pbc12]

You I know I was wrong when that happened. But it almost seems to late for that now. She comes home today and I will say that I am sorry. But I have yet to receive a call from her, so that might be an indication that she still feels the same way. I saw on some of these forums that some say whether you like it or not, she is seeing someone else and wants that time to pursue that. To give her that space. Does that also seem to be the case? Will this other guy be good to her son like I was?

[pbc12]

Also I have talked to her on the phone a few times while she was over there and explicitly told her several times that I loved her and she avoided at all cost even through text that she loved me.

[ForeverZero]

She's been pretty much starved for fun and social interaction for a while now. Her need to get out and do things is normal, but on the other hand she is being fairly inconsiderate to your needs as well. Right now, your best bet is to try and sit her down and have a civilized conversation with her, and leave the smothering out of it. Tell her the truth. You feel left out when she spends all this time with her friends, and you wish she'd include you more in her life. You're sorry for the myspace thing, it was immature and you shouldn't have done it.

After that the ball's in her court, but be sure not to smother her with I love you's and crap like that, it never works. You also should consider the idea that perhaps she's been tired of this relationship for a while, and getting out and partying is her way of shopping for a new one. Personally, I don't think it is, my guess is that she's just getting out there with her friends for the first time in a while, and she'll tire herself out in a month or so.

[pbc12]

Well now here is another thing though with the distance between us and the scheduling conflict to include busy lifestyle seeing each other will be next to null??