[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Hello All,

I am having such a hard time right now and would really appreciate insight on my situation.

To make a long story extremely short...

My ex and I were together for 6 years. In January of 2010, I found out he had been addicted to Morphine for 4 years (he later went on to heroin). Since then I have been through enough emotional pain. This past January, he admitted himself into detox and then rehab for 30 days. When he got out, we argued and thought it would be best to not talk for a couple of months. He made a promise to contact me May 1st. During those 2 months, I went to therapy, and started doing things I loved to do. I was actually very happy without him.

Come May 1st, my ex contacted me via email saying he's a changed man and he's found God. He stated that he loves me and misses me. He has been going to church every Sunday and attends a men's group every Monday that deals with struggles and addictions. He wrote such nice things about me in the emails he wrote and for a moment I actually believed he changed. No mind you, my replies gave off a skeptical vibe and he felt that. THAT is when he did a complete 360 and went back to his old, jerky self.

Now he doesn't want us to work out anymore because we have too much baggage. He doesn't realize that this baggage he speaks of was created by him! Does he not know the pain he caused me, his son, his family and friends?

Insight would be great. Thank you.

[talaniman]

Just because he went to rehab, and has not used for a few months, doesn't mean he is cured. I highly advise you to leave him alone on his journey for at least 18-24 months. Then maybe he has a handle on things mentally, and emotionally.

Sorry, but you better recognize he isn't ready for anything right now as his recovery/healing is still in the very early stages, even though the dope is out of his system.