[cain1]

It's complicated. I started talking to her in jan. Of this year. She was getting a divorce and still is. I use to be with her so we rekindled a old flame. Her husband was already engaged to another woman. What a ****. Anyway just recently she tells me she just needs some time and one of her kids is suffering because of the divorce which is about to be final. Says she has to learn how to walk on her own to feet and that we moved to fast. She was telling me she wanted me to move in next year and she loved and she does for sure and I do her. But how all the sudden does she need time. She told me through a text and has only contacted me through text in five days saying she is just getting herself together and focusing on her kids? I understand but to just cut me off after getting me to open my heart take and look after her.

[cain1]

Is she being sincere or breaking it off with me because she feels bad after all I've done. We were high school sweethearts as well and we are both 30 now

[indya]

If she needs time, she need time. Respect her space. Going through a divorce is never easy, that too with kids involved.

[cain1]

I agree but why me think things then back up. And to send me a text saying this with ( I hope you understand at the end) I think I deserve a phone call at least but hey there is really nothing I can do. Wonder if she is getting back with her ex? I never would have thought that in a million years. I'm just confused as to not call me or anything

[cain1]

Well I asked many times before I opened up if she was sure she didn't need time and many other questions. Now I've opened myself up she decides she needs to be able to stand on her own first. And told me don't wait in her?

[cain1]

The only reason I'm concerned is that her husband was engaged already and I just found out today that he broke it off with his fiancé last Tuesday. She told me she needs time for her kids Friday night. She says she isn't getting back with him ever so I haven't said anything about it but it's kind of suspicious.

[sheranudeep]

Be gentle otherwise you might get divorce before you even marry her .

[cain1]

Thanks

[cain1]

Update : **** er, just texted me and said she just can't be with me right now. Has to focus on kids. Should have thought about that back in January. Never again friends, never again

[cain1]

She should have thought about that before convincing me she wants to get married and me move out my house abd in with her. I sold my ****ibg house and all, good god