Why ask. (this is for dumpers)
When you don't want to hear the answer? This is to dumpers specifically. I know that basically everyone reacts the same way to being dumped and virtually all the dumpers expect the opposite reaction from the people they leave. Yet it's a standard tactic for a dumper to call their dumpee, ask them how they're doing, then get offended/angry when the question they ask is answered honestly... Why do that? Why pretend to be interested in someone's well being when you're only interested in hearing what you want to hear?
Is it expected that the person in question lie about their feelings, in order to appear stronger than they are? I've heard dumpees say it again and again "I pretended to be okay and things went really well!" So you HAVE to pretend in order to perform meaningful conversation? That seems crazy, illogical.
Perhaps my question is just a round about way of reaffirming no contact...
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