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    notsure35 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    May 1, 2012, 06:33 PM
    I'm an addict and my husband and I are talking divorce now... ugh... now what?
    Well I've been an addict for about 6yrs now and I've put him through hell and back and I'm so sorry for it but we can't live like this anymore. I want things to improve or we just need to get on with it.
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    May 2, 2012, 06:55 AM
    I can't tell you 'what now?' without knowing what you are already doing to fix yourself. Are you getting help? Are you still feeding your addiction or are you rehabilitating?

    Is he willing to attend marriage counseling with you? Has he thought about attending support groups for family members of addicts? Are there children involved? Does he need to think about protecting them?

    Just wanting things to improve isn't going to do anything unless you make a move to fix them. It all starts with you working on yourself.

    If you both still love each other and want the relationship to survive, legal separation while you work on getting healthy might be a compromise. If he is ready to let go and move forward with his life, then I suggest both of you talk to lawyers. Your marriage isn't going to survive without a lot of exhaustingly hard work and you are going to have to do it without falling back into old patterns. Can you?
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