[MattWC28]

So I am in need of advice. I have known my girlfriend for about 5 months. We've dated seriously for almost 3 months. In the beginning she was pursuing me aggressively, trying to get my attention. For the first couple of months of dating I had my walls up. I didn't open up much and she continued to aggressively pursue me. Her parents and her friends told me that she had not been this interested in someone in a long time. This past month, I decided to let my guard down and open up. Nothing earth shattering but I was vulnerable with her about my life and I became more of a gentleman around her. Within a week she treated me differently. The week after I could hardly get ahold of her because she was "really busy". Yesterday she tells me that she has been acting this way because she is now trying to figure out how interested she is in me and maybe we need a break. She says originally I was a challenge and now I am really nice and she's not sure if that is what she wants. I knew ahead of time that she was always into indifferent guys that have rebelious tendencies. She's 33. I'm 32.

My question. We are still together, but how do I approach this? I have strong feelings for her. How do I go NC when we have to see each other weekly around other people. We talked about continuing to move through this, but I can't wait for her to figure out how she feels about me. How do I arrange to meet with her to finalize the split when we both know this is going to happen the next time we talk?

[Fr_Chuck]

First you needed to have been honest and open from the start, but sounds like she started dating you, others saw that she was losing interest ( you did not perhaps) Dating and the first few months is when you decide if this is the type of relationship you both want, if it is not, you move on.

[MattWC28]

Not sure how this answer helps? I was honest from the start. I wasn't open because I am not an open person. That is something I am working on and happens when I trust another person. Others saw that she was losing interest? That's not true at all as her friends were the first to say they are surprised by this. Moving on is easier said than done as my real concern is that I still have to see this person once a week and am looking for advice.

[talaniman]

Treat this as a break up, and ignore her. This is a female that loves challenges and when you were a unknown closed inigma, you were interesting. Now you are no longer interesting, because she knows how you feel.

What makes you think she will be any different with you than she was with others? IGNORE her completely even when you have to see her that one time a week. If she wants to talk, you act indifferent to whatever she is yapping about.

Cold maybe, but she no longer is the one in charge, YOU are. And you have been dumped.